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vader 09/10/2012

Brad had a criminal record and was a suspect in a series of rapes in
Washington.This was going to be his 3rd offense and he would have been in jail for the rest of his life.For three years....there have been rumors and lies about Brad.I am writing this column to make it the truth.The first thing that I am going to say is this......The crimes did not
occur in Washington.They occured in another state.He was picked up in Washington.He plead guilty.The judge sentenced Brad to three years to the a program in Washington state.And Brad came out clean and sober
after the program was over.HE DID NOT OFFEND AND COMMIT ANY
CRIMES FOR THE 25 YEARS..............................................................................i DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AND I AM ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS FROM ANY OF HIS VICTIMS.i KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG.wE WERE TOGETHER FOR 12 YEARS AND FOR 5 YEARS...HE WAS CLEAN AND SOBER AND HE WORKED EVERYDAY.anD bRAD PAID ALLOF THE BILLS AND DID NOT TAKE MY MONEY AS THE PEOPLE IN THIS SUPPORT GROUP SUGGESTED.i HAD 6 CATS AND bRAD LOVED ALL OF THEM.bRAD AND i USED TO FEED ALL OF THE STRAYS IN THE
bALLARD AREA.hE BEGAN TO FEED THE HOMELESS.hE WAS CHANGING AND i SAW A KIND HEARTED PERSON COMING TO.
anD i WANT EVERYONE TO KNOW THAT bRAD DEVELOPED A HABIT.\
the name of the drug is meth.;Meth destroyed my home.Meth destroyed
the jobs and meth destroyed him.I found my Brad on May 22nd,2009.
He was in the yard.Brad destroyed himself.There was destruction everyone where and I held him in my arms and I forgave him and i asked
Jesus Christ to forgive Brad and I am asking everyone who was the
victim to forgive Brad and to forgive me because I dont know what else to
say or to do.I dont know how to live anymore.As for my cats,one died and
Kramer is still with me and she is healthy.Remember Meth is a demon
drugs and is should be banned not legal.LEts have rehab to these
people.Lets gave them rehab and not jail or in prison.Brad paid for his
crimes and i am so sorry and I am repeating myself for today I was told
that Brad wasnt any good and he deserved to die.NOONE DESERVES
THE HELL I DO THROUGH EVERYDAY .BRAD WAS TRYING BUT IN TEH END METH RAN OUT AND BRAD LOST.ALL I CAN SAY IS THIS.I will always love Brad and i hope we can meet again.vader.peace and love.

barbarame 09/11/2012

Enough already

Ahnonimus 09/11/2012

You sound so confused. Have you gotten some counseling to help you deal with all these feelings? Please do, you'll feel much better.

beatrice99 09/13/2012

Hello again vader. I hope venting helps you feel better. However, you are not the guilty one, nor the one that needs forgiveness for Brad's crimes. It's true, drugs can turn you into a different person but, when all is said and done, a person chooses the drugs, and not the other way around. I only hope Brad asked God for forgiveness before he passed, because forgiveness to my knowledge, is non-transferrable. It's obvious you loved him very much... way more, than he loved himself. I don't intend for this to be cruel but the more I read in your posts, the less I understand. However, I will not say all that I am thinking because I'm afraid it would be taken the wrong way. May you one day overcome the anger within yourself, and find true happiness.
I'm sorry about your cat dying, and glad Kramer is still with you, and healthy.
Take care.

vader 09/13/2012

to all who replied.My old job is hiring in October so I will be working again and it will be for two months! There will be many changes in what I do.My brother sent me some bIrthday because on October 5th,Iwill be 65 years old and I cant wait.It has been a rough 3 years.My cat Kramer has been sick and she is 14 years old so I have been a bit up tight.I still sing karoke but not as much because it is held in the local bar and my coucilors do not approve and since I have what drinking does neitehr do I but I have got to start somewhere.Somewhere out there is a rainbow and i know in my heart that I will see Brad again and we will never be apart but I
much learn to live my life and live it will and not to be taken by a pretty face.Sometimes i give my money away and it is a bad thing to do.Once again thanks to all vader.

steph01 09/13/2012

Hi Vader, you do sound confused. My hubby died from opiate abuse 6 months ago. He wasn't violent at all, and all though he lied and may have stole a little from family I do not ask people for his forgivness. I won't, my hubby made those choices as much as I tried to help him, I couldn't. It's the person that has to face it when they cross over. I know what drugs can to obviously, but it seems your man had made some very poor choices if he physically hurt people. Hope you can get some help with dealing with your emotions. Best of luck to you!

deleted_user 09/13/2012

Vader, I have been on here since 2009 and this has been going on with since before then. All I can say is that you need to seek someway of dealing with all the issues that continously arise in your life. I do not know if you are just seeking the sympathy of others during their grief or not. But in all honesty Vader, you need to seek help. I have read over the past few years the many changes in the story of Brad and I no longer know what is real and what is possibly fiction. Your recent postings are incoherent and don't make a lot of sense. Please seek help Vader. I am sure you are a good person and you deserve to have a good life. I am afraid that I have to remove you from my list as I just don't believe the stories anymore. They are always changing. I apologize for being blunt but I people are on here for support and guidance. Many of us who have followed your story over the years have noticed how it keeps changing and that to me means you are taking advantage of those who genuinely want support here. I wish you well and hopefully you will find the peace that you are seeking

barbarame 09/14/2012

I am sorry to say, but I feel I have had as much of the Brad saga as I can take. I too feel that this woman is in the wrong place, and since we always have new folk joining, she syphons sympathy - wasting everybody's time with her soap opera. I am sick to death of this sort of manipulation, and to other DS members - stop feeding into this game. IGNORE. She will, hopefully get tired of whining around here ans seek the professional help she needs.

deleted_user 09/14/2012

You, is what you need to be thinking about, for whatever reason, or quality it is that you found in brad cherish that, no one is perfect infact most fall real short of being close to perfect, I have never ben one to talk ill of the dead, but you sound like a giving, and caring person, but it sounds to me like brad was lucky to have you, most peaple with that kind of record usually dont have anyone around them, time to move on, its hard, I cant tell you how, but seems like you have a better chance of moving on then most.

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