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On the 22nd of December...it will be 7 months that Brad killed him self.Brad killed himself when he knew that my brother was coming from New York and we were going to a Mariner game.I havent seen my brother in 5 years and I couldnt wait to see him.When this happened,I freaked out and things have gotten to be a little better.People who knew cant believe that hes gone and when they ask me what happened.I tell them that it wasnt natural.How do you explain suicide to a person whom you havent seen in years? How do you explain the fact that Brad was depressed and didnt go for help? When are people going to understand that this communication talk is nonsense.The men in the Pacific Northwest are the best looking like I said..but they have got a roughness like Brad and still have this macho mentality.They dont talk.When Brad talked it was mostly about sports...( I mean who needs this) Cant men learnt to talk? Brad never learned the basic art of small talk.Small talk is what gets you today..but if you dont read the papers,watch tv,read magazines like I do..how can I have a decent conversation? I mean what do you talk about without being made feeling quilty this happened? What do I say? People this wasnt my fault.We were falling apart at the seems and this act reflects.The survivors of suicide shouldnt be made to feel quilty...so why am I felling it? Cant people tell me I am sorry just once!
I do not know,I think maybe all of us that are alive after we lose a loved one may feel some guilt about being alive. Do not know, maybe it is part of the grief process.
BUT you DO NOT have anything to feel guilty about!!
I situation is not the same as yours, I lost my mom in a car accident .
But I feel guilty,I did not talk to my mom the last day of her life. I feel guilty it took the hospital 6 hours to get a hold of us.Because we where riding around on the motorcyle. And my poor dad was all all alone in a hospital 200 miles away from home. I feel guilty i did not spend enough time with my mom.... the list can go on and on.
But is serves no purpose.
We all wish we could change people or situations but we can not.
Please be kind to yourself.
I think people do not know what to say regarding the loss of a loved one through health issues or an accident. And I am sure suicide is even more difficult to approach.
I hope that you can find peace..
Deb