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why didn't someone prepare me for this?

blonde5224
blonde5224
why do they leave us and expect us to go on?

how do they think we will ever be ok?

i wake up and my head is spinning and all i want is for none of this to be real.

how am i expected to just get out of bed every day, go on with everyday living.. when my reason for living was taken away.

how do i fix this pain? how do i fill this void? how to make my heart stop breaking every time i think of him? i don't even want to function.

all i want is to find my way back to him. how is this real? why didn't someone save him like someone saved me? why don't people understand that i'll never be whole again?

why didn't someone prepare me for this?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I felt like this when I lost my Dad - he was the closest person to me in life. I can tell you now (18 months later) that eventually it just hurts a little less...and then a little less, and so on. They say that it stays with you your whole life, but that eventually you get to the point where the memories are good ones to cherish, not painful flashbacks.

I saw your video - it was beautiful and an amazing tribute to the relationship you shared. I`m sending you a hug and wishes that you start to feel better soon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know just what you are saying. I wake upi everyday and hope I will see my daughter in her bed ,and it all was just a nightmare.
I don't think it will ever stop. I feel broken.
You couldn't have said it better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel your pain, Loss of a loved one is more difficult than I imagined it would be. I lost my wife to cancer and after 5 months it is not any easier and yet I know I must go on. I still wake up at night and miss her so. I struggle every day to just get by but I know I must, not just for me but for my kids. I will get easier with time but you are right the hurt will always be there. Hang in there and know you are in my prayers.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There is never anyway to totally prepare for ones death. No matter if it is sudden or a long drawn out death...when you know it's coming, you still are never ready, never totally prepared! It hurts no matter if you know or not.
Hugs, Kat
deleted_user
deleted_user
All the preparation in the world goes out the window when the moment comes. You sound as though your loss is VERY recent. It takes weeks, sometimes months for the initial shock to subside, and them you move through other fazes of grief. The first year is very rough. Hang with us, lean on us, and just rest as much as you can. The stress of it all drains us of our energy. Just hang in there. HUggs, Rainbowmama
blonde5224
blonde5224
thank you everyone. just for listening. it helps.
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