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What do you mean by moving on?

vader
vader
I started a new doctor today and already I dont feel comfortable.First of all..this guy who doesnt really know me wants to put me on prozac.Prozac has been in the news a lot here.It is one drug that I dont want to take.Do you know that the 2 people who made headlines in 1999 with the Columbine Shootings took Prozac? And there have been several instances in seattle..that I cant mention.But then he told me that I should move on..what does he mean? How can I at 61 move on? How is this possible? I do stuff everyday.Since 1955 at the age of 8 until 2004,i have lost 14 people.14!I love my mother on 6/17/2003.Frank died on 8/1/2004.They were 1 year apart.How can I =move on? I try to laugh everyday and I try to watch the comedy shows.I like to watch the 3 stooges and I love family guy.I promised Frank that I would things that my late father didnt.He wanted to go to Ireland and rent a cabin there by the water with no phone ,just a camera and after that..go to a pub and see the sights.He wanted so much.How can I move on? DOes anyone know what this doctor means? Does anyone take Prozac? Let me know..but the stories here say they are bad for your health.SO how can I move on?
deleted_user
deleted_user
If your doctor is telling you to move on, he or she is out of touch with bereavement. Find another doctor. If they look first to drugs, look for another doctor. Drugs and alcohol only postpone the pain. Sometimes drugs are necessary. But not forever and not for everyone. There are many bereavement support groups. Find one in your area. Finding those who can help you talk out the pain can be so healing.

Mushroom
deleted_user
deleted_user
Moving on is not the answer to coping with the answer to bereavment. Acceptance is and that takes time it also doesn't take drugs. Sometimes drugs make you feel better in the times while you are going through the time while your going thru the acceptance process. I don't know about Prozak tho", I take Paroxetine and talk therapy and I come on DS for my therapy.. It's different things that work for different people You have to work on different things to see what works for you. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Big Hugs to You. Tom
deleted_user
deleted_user
Prozak is not the answer. It is only a temporary measure and helps to put your true feelings to the back of your mind but they will come to the front eventually and its best to get them out as soon as you can.
In a way the doctor is right in saying you should move on but its not a good phrase to use to a grieving person. Like it or not we have no choice but to make a new life for ourselves. That doesn't mean we have to forget our loved ones who we have lost. I don't think that could ever happen. Acceptance is the important word - we have to accept what has happened. When the time is right,maybe you'll want to do the things your dad wanted to do and never got round to. The trip to Ireland would be a memorable experience for you and may help you come to terms with your life and feel nmore at ease with yourself.
Good Luck.
vader
vader
I want to thank all who have replied.But doesnt the phrase moving on kill you? Noone knows the pain that i go through almost everyday and it has been 4 years.These doctors just dont fully understand and their only way to deal with a crying person is with pills,pills and pills.Thanks.Vader.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Prozac is an anti-depressant for chemical (clinical) depression. Bereavement happens to people with both clinical depression and people without it who then experience situational depression from their loss. Most physicians would not prescribe Prozac to someone for situational depression. If s/he is recommending Prozac, it is likely because s/he suspects that your depression is clinical, and that the situation you are in is making it more pronounced.
vader
vader
Thanks to all who have replied.It has been a very busy month.Tomorrow Brad votes and it will be hectic..he hasnt voted in a long time.I do feel a little better...but drugs are not the answer.I have learned the hard way that Frank is passed on and I must live my life.I had a fantastic breakfast the other day.At the house of pancakes.I stopped eating pancakes a long time ago..but after i ate,I felt better.And I am going to do charity work again.We must help the people who have nothing now and give them the stuff to get them back in school and such.We had violence again.2 kids are dead.Why all the obesssion with guns? This kid was a nice kid and when someone dies at 15 over an arguement shows that some people today can be a bit nasty so be careful.Thanks to all.Vader.