completely normal! i lost my mom 6 months ago.i used to forget to eat and now ive gained a bunch of weight because of basically emotional eating

Same here, I lost weight the first 3 weeks. Felt like I was going to heave everytime I ate. The first week I only drank green tea even. Now I've gained back what I lost.

I am like Tara. I lost my mom 3 1/2 months ago and while mom was sick in the hospital - I lost weight. I was running around and forgetting to eat much with all the stress. Now that mom is gone, I seem to look toward food for comfort. I hope I even out soon.

That happened to me when I found out that my father had stage 4 lung cancer. Not only did I lose 30 pounds, but I had to be medicated for anxiety and depression. I couldn't focus on anything. I'd sit at my desk at work and cry. He died 6 months after he was diagnosed. I think its normal to lose weight.

Glad you posted about this because I am down to 101lbs and just can't seem to get the weight back on coz I don;t feel like eating.

Its an effort to eat and yes I get those cravings.

I am trying hard to get the weight back on but like you said, I never feel hungry so I have to make a point of writing down cals Im eating to make sure Im getting my daily intake, but I never reach it.

Hope we all find peace.
Godbless.

I lost 9 lbs during the first week and a half after my dad died, and then stayed at that weight for about a month and a half. I completely lost my appetite and felt like throwing up every time I tried to eat, as my father's death was complicated and tragic, the thought of eating disgusted me. It's been 4 months now and have since gained the weight back + a few pounds, which is strange because I haven't particularly been eating in excess - i just slowly was able to return to normal eating habits although I still do have days where I forget to eat or am just not hungry at all. It's especially strange for me because I have always been around the same weight, exercise almost every day and eat very clean - I have never personally experienced how much stress takes a tole on the body until my dad's death (in fact, i thought physical problems due to stress was more of a myth) - i've not been menstruating and my face and chest is a mine field of acne (I'm 28 and i've always been regular and have never had bad acne before!). Grieving causes so many physical differences that I'm still learning about, but according to my grief counsellor, all of it is normal.

When my Dad went to the hospital on May 1, 2011, I was working and going straight to the hospital and then home to sleep each night. On May 8, 2011, he went to ICU and the next day with Hospice, until his passing on May 14, 2011. By the time his funeral and all was over, I had lost 30 lbs. I simply forgot to worry about me, I guess. To this day, my eating habits are terrible. I only seem to eat when I feel sick. My Dad would eat anything and when I eat, I think of him and stop. I think I may be punishing myself because he's not here to enjoy it with me. So, my weight has continued to stay off for quite awhile now. I know I need to take better care of myself but, haven't gotten the appetite back yet.

I thought the not eating thing was a way to punish myself for him dying. I feel that as a nurse I should have seen the signs. But looking back, my whole life I have always only eaten once a day. My mostest fed 3 times a day. I seem to have stopped losing weight and am holding steady at a 19lb weight loss. I find that I seem to be obsessed with cleaning. We always had a very clean house, but I seem to be taking it to new levels! I think that this is a coping mechanism on my part. I spend a lot of time alone. I am a homebody by nature and tend to get stressed when a lot of people invade my space (my house). Me and Ray were a very self contained unit. I now have to learn how to live differently.