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I had to write this column.I am 62 years old.But in 1987 three months before
the death of my father 3 teens from New Jersey committed suicide.This event shocked everyone.Even that ego maniac Geraldo Rivera did a special on it and the question was this....why? My name is vader.I know what these teenagers were going thru.They were going thru the signs of
teenage depression and back in 1987...noone talked.1980s were the era of Big Hair,smiles bracelet and platform shoes if I am correct.It was a time of heavy metal music coming to a start.And it was a time of teenagers coming of age in a difficult era.One of them at the support group told me back then he was bored.Bored of life at 17? Dear..I injured my leg and I cant work and I have to keep off my leg for one week.I am down to almost no money because I am a vendor for Real Change.When I dont sell,I dont
make no money and my leg is in pain.I have go back to the clinic in 5 days.But let me begin.One of the signs of teenage depression is this...all of the teenagers did not have any close friends and some were loners.One boy was very nice but he was always alone and this is a very bag sign.One
sign is the aloneness and belief in these weird ideas.I mean weird ideas.If you believe that you are a vampire and can change into a werewolf,please
do me a favor.Talk to your parents.Talk to your teachers.Vampires and werewolves do not exist.They are a creation of the writers imagination.No has lived to be 800 years old.And come to think of it...who wants to live to be that old? 800 years old! If the BP keeps leaking the oil in a course of 100 to 200 years earth will not inhabited by human beings.ANd this is what
the scientists said recently.So why are the teenagers so concerned about this? This isnt normal.Another sign of teenage depression is the constant and I mean the constant wearing of black.Black clothing are for mourning and I have been wearing black since the 22nd of May.I am in mourning.So
when people see me in black....they assume it is a fashion statement.But the constant wearing of black and constant aloneness are one of the signs of teenage depression.Another sign of teenage depression is cutting.And boys cut also.I have never cut but I know people who have and they are still doing it at 62..(how sad)...Cutting means anger towards yourself.And here is my advice.Teenagers...there is noone worth the pain and suicide attempt.Men forget and they wont be around if anything happens to you.So dont be angry.I have had a very happy life.I have seen a great deal of famous people in concert.This was before your time,but I saw one of the greatest comedians and his name was Jackie Gleason.I saw Gleason for my 12th birthday in 1959.Kids....listen to me.Jackie Gleason was born great and I know that this is unfair.I could never write songs or short stories,but I am trying and I will never be a published writer so I quit trying.I am trying to pay my rent for July.I owe him 1200....and i have to come up with some payment.You cant withhold payment in seattle because it means
an eviction notice and with the cats I have got no place to go.Now let me continue..Another sign of teenage depression is this........you are always an
angry.YOu are angy at the world and such and i dont blame you.Anger can
be a very healthy emotion but if you are always angry......it is not healthy.And one of the signs of teenage depression and I will say this from
experience...IS THE DEATH OF SOMEONE CLOSE OR FAMOUS AND THIS ADDS TO THE DEPRESSION.I know what I am talking about.The death of President Kennedy in 1963 changed me.I wasnt a happy kid anymore.All I thought about was death and i never got over this.The trauma.Trauma at a very early age can lead to serious problems.But there is help available now and you can be helped.Kids....in a short while,you
will be going to college.You will meet new people.You will have new friends and when this happens all of the friends that you had during the
high school years vanish.I know this from experience.In 1965 at the age of 18,I was developing interests.Interests and hobbies are two different things and the love of music is with me still.I still go to concerts and collect Elvis Presley records not to mention I have read several books about him and I am still reading.People today quit reading after high school or college.The thought of reading a book scares them.I read 2 books a week and it has \developed into something healthy.Reading has made me talk about many
different subjects.If you dont read or read magazines,how are you going to have a conversation about business? How are you going to relate to a doctor? This is the reason why holistic medicine is popular here.I dont believe in alternative medicine and i dont believe in taking vitamins.I think that the whole ploy of vitamins are getting dangerous.If you are eating well
balanced food...you dont need a vitamin.Multivitamins are dangerous.And the scientists have found out that men who take these vitamins stand a greater risk of developing prostate cancer then the men who dont.So remember talk to people and read.Be informed.And if you are becoming a recluse all because of depression..get help.The kids at Columbine could have been helped.The hatred that they had towards the stars and athletes I will never forget.Kids...let me give you advice.....have you even heard about potential? Well some people reach their potential when they are in there teenage years...then they go to college and nothing happens.Some
people reach theire highest earning power in college...then nothing happens.ANd when this happens..you have to realize that you are not responsbile for other peoples problems and you must learn to solve your own.You can believe in weird stuff also.But dont talk to me about vampires.I think that the latest craze about vampires and werewolves is just silly.And the so called love story Bella and Edward.Bella is far beyond the times.If you noticed by reading the books...Bellas life centers around EdwEdward.And everything is Edward.Bella doesnt have any friends nor does she have hobbies.She is really obsessed with Edward and this is bad.
Twilight is a good series and I think she is a good writer..but lets have a more mature heroine...Bella is off the wall and anyone who centers her life around a man suffers in the end.I know...kids...it has happened to me.There are other things in life besides parties and men.ANd if you are getting depressed...get help and dont even think of suicide.The aftermath is terrible and i still havent recovered from Brads.Dont do such a selfish act.and this is the end of the advice........teens get help and talk about your depression.
1987 three months before the death of my father
3 teens from New Jersey committed suicide.It made
media news.And it shocked everyone.And I didnt know
the death of my father 3 teens from New Jersey committed suicide.This event shocked everyone.Even that ego maniac Geraldo Rivera did a special on it and the question was this....why? My name is vader.I know what these teenagers were going thru.They were going thru the signs of
teenage depression and back in 1987...noone talked.1980s were the era of Big Hair,smiles bracelet and platform shoes if I am correct.It was a time of heavy metal music coming to a start.And it was a time of teenagers coming of age in a difficult era.One of them at the support group told me back then he was bored.Bored of life at 17? Dear..I injured my leg and I cant work and I have to keep off my leg for one week.I am down to almost no money because I am a vendor for Real Change.When I dont sell,I dont
make no money and my leg is in pain.I have go back to the clinic in 5 days.But let me begin.One of the signs of teenage depression is this...all of the teenagers did not have any close friends and some were loners.One boy was very nice but he was always alone and this is a very bag sign.One
sign is the aloneness and belief in these weird ideas.I mean weird ideas.If you believe that you are a vampire and can change into a werewolf,please
do me a favor.Talk to your parents.Talk to your teachers.Vampires and werewolves do not exist.They are a creation of the writers imagination.No has lived to be 800 years old.And come to think of it...who wants to live to be that old? 800 years old! If the BP keeps leaking the oil in a course of 100 to 200 years earth will not inhabited by human beings.ANd this is what
the scientists said recently.So why are the teenagers so concerned about this? This isnt normal.Another sign of teenage depression is the constant and I mean the constant wearing of black.Black clothing are for mourning and I have been wearing black since the 22nd of May.I am in mourning.So
when people see me in black....they assume it is a fashion statement.But the constant wearing of black and constant aloneness are one of the signs of teenage depression.Another sign of teenage depression is cutting.And boys cut also.I have never cut but I know people who have and they are still doing it at 62..(how sad)...Cutting means anger towards yourself.And here is my advice.Teenagers...there is noone worth the pain and suicide attempt.Men forget and they wont be around if anything happens to you.So dont be angry.I have had a very happy life.I have seen a great deal of famous people in concert.This was before your time,but I saw one of the greatest comedians and his name was Jackie Gleason.I saw Gleason for my 12th birthday in 1959.Kids....listen to me.Jackie Gleason was born great and I know that this is unfair.I could never write songs or short stories,but I am trying and I will never be a published writer so I quit trying.I am trying to pay my rent for July.I owe him 1200....and i have to come up with some payment.You cant withhold payment in seattle because it means
an eviction notice and with the cats I have got no place to go.Now let me continue..Another sign of teenage depression is this........you are always an
angry.YOu are angy at the world and such and i dont blame you.Anger can
be a very healthy emotion but if you are always angry......it is not healthy.And one of the signs of teenage depression and I will say this from
experience...IS THE DEATH OF SOMEONE CLOSE OR FAMOUS AND THIS ADDS TO THE DEPRESSION.I know what I am talking about.The death of President Kennedy in 1963 changed me.I wasnt a happy kid anymore.All I thought about was death and i never got over this.The trauma.Trauma at a very early age can lead to serious problems.But there is help available now and you can be helped.Kids....in a short while,you
will be going to college.You will meet new people.You will have new friends and when this happens all of the friends that you had during the
high school years vanish.I know this from experience.In 1965 at the age of 18,I was developing interests.Interests and hobbies are two different things and the love of music is with me still.I still go to concerts and collect Elvis Presley records not to mention I have read several books about him and I am still reading.People today quit reading after high school or college.The thought of reading a book scares them.I read 2 books a week and it has \developed into something healthy.Reading has made me talk about many
different subjects.If you dont read or read magazines,how are you going to have a conversation about business? How are you going to relate to a doctor? This is the reason why holistic medicine is popular here.I dont believe in alternative medicine and i dont believe in taking vitamins.I think that the whole ploy of vitamins are getting dangerous.If you are eating well
balanced food...you dont need a vitamin.Multivitamins are dangerous.And the scientists have found out that men who take these vitamins stand a greater risk of developing prostate cancer then the men who dont.So remember talk to people and read.Be informed.And if you are becoming a recluse all because of depression..get help.The kids at Columbine could have been helped.The hatred that they had towards the stars and athletes I will never forget.Kids...let me give you advice.....have you even heard about potential? Well some people reach their potential when they are in there teenage years...then they go to college and nothing happens.Some
people reach theire highest earning power in college...then nothing happens.ANd when this happens..you have to realize that you are not responsbile for other peoples problems and you must learn to solve your own.You can believe in weird stuff also.But dont talk to me about vampires.I think that the latest craze about vampires and werewolves is just silly.And the so called love story Bella and Edward.Bella is far beyond the times.If you noticed by reading the books...Bellas life centers around EdwEdward.And everything is Edward.Bella doesnt have any friends nor does she have hobbies.She is really obsessed with Edward and this is bad.
Twilight is a good series and I think she is a good writer..but lets have a more mature heroine...Bella is off the wall and anyone who centers her life around a man suffers in the end.I know...kids...it has happened to me.There are other things in life besides parties and men.ANd if you are getting depressed...get help and dont even think of suicide.The aftermath is terrible and i still havent recovered from Brads.Dont do such a selfish act.and this is the end of the advice........teens get help and talk about your depression.
1987 three months before the death of my father
3 teens from New Jersey committed suicide.It made
media news.And it shocked everyone.And I didnt know
Tom B. aka Ihman