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beatrice99
beatrice99
I'm sitting here alone again as usual, needing a friend or two to talk to. I'm also waiting for my phone to ring, hoping for good news but, expecting the worst. A little while ago, I went for a visit with my Dad's former roomate, at the nursing home. I was informed he had a heart attack and was in the hospital. Since I am not family, they couldn't give me much information, his brother's phone #. He used to have a phone list in his room somewhere but, I was unable to locate it. I called the hospital and I do know he is in ICU. I left my phone # and I hope to hear something soon, from his family. They know me, and have thanked me for keeping him company. Before my Dad passed, I visited them every other day for about 5 yrs. and since my Dad passed, I made it a habit to visit at least once a week. I have gotten so attached to this man. The pieces of my already broken heart have not yet been reassembled. Would ya'll please pray for us? Thanks so much.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes indeed prayers go out to you. Being so close and after losing your dad this roommate is an extension of your dad, so losing him is like losing a part of him.
You are not alone.
God bless
deleted_user
deleted_user
Beatrice, I know what you mean about getting attached to people in the nursing home. But, I found that I felt worse after my mom died in April, going back there.

Just too painful.

When I need someone to talk to, I go for a walk and talk to God. Sometimes, I'll do a mental gratitude list and thank Him out loud for my blessings. I'l say, Thank you God for your beauty, thank you for your Power, thank you for your presence, ......the list can go on on. By the time I get home, I'm not singing the blues anymore!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Prayers headed your way :)
~Kathleen
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry that you are in pain again.. Just know that you were there for your dad and then also his friend, , it seems to me the best people are sometimes hurt the most. I'm going through the worst pain of my life- but knowing about it won't help you any. just know life often deals you an hand that is hard to take, but someone told me that god will not give you more than you can handle, be strong. Just knowing you have love for the man is enough, he can feel your strength even if your not there. You were a posotive person in his life for a very long time, that's what really matters, not the last couple days of his life. Be proud of yourself and know you did a good job when it really mattered, all that time. God will give you peace, just recieve it. :) TT.
beatrice99
beatrice99
Thanks ya'll for letting me know you care. When I posted this Tuesday, I knew very little about what was goung on with my friend, "Mr. Lindsay". I waited all day Wednesday. His sister in law finally updated me yesterday. She told me it was only a matter of time and not to get my hopes up. She told me he was tired, in more ways than one. Due to his condition, he kept his room very cold (we called it the Arctic"). He said he could breathe better. He went through a lot of roomates because of this and I was told that each time a roomate left, by passing or going to another room, upset him very much. He never shared that with me but, I'm sure he was very lonely, with no one to talk to, or even feeling the presence of another person. Hopefully today, I will hear some better news. However, I am trying to mentally prepare myself in case God decides to take him Home.
barbarame
barbarame
Chin up lassie. Prayers will indeed be offered for you and your friend.
Light a candle and meditate peacefully where you are. A few pretty flowers to look at too. Be kind to yourself now. xxxxxxx
beatrice99
beatrice99
Another day has gone by and no one bothered to contact me, or update me on my friends' condition. I don't know why it seems so hard for someone to pick up the phone and give me a little "heads up". His brother and sister in law have told me how much it means for me to visit with him but yet, I am being left in the dark. I have been sitting on pins and needles, unable to do anything more than wait for any news, one way or the other. I will continue to pray and hope to hear something soon. Thanks for your prayers.