Yes, I had a hard time, too. One thing that helped was to get a body pillow - that's one of those very long bolster type pillows - my sister got me one, and putting that in the bed on his side of the bed helped. I guess I was so used to bumping into something on his side of the bed that I needed to have that. The other thing I had to do was redo the bedroom - I changed out all the linens, lamps, artwork - and replaced it with new stuff to make it "my room" instead of "our room." There is something about leaving it all just the way it was that made me somehow subconsciously expect to see my husband in it. Once I made those changes to my room, I was able to start sleeping much better in it.

I never did adjust to sleeping on his side of the bed though. After 30 years, that just wasn't possible for me....

Hope this helps.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I purchased a new bed, painted and changed my room around. Like Cliffskat's wrote, I made it my room! It really does help

When my son passed away June 26; we got the call at 3:00 am. I didn't sleep for days. Even when I did sleep I woke up crying. Rely on your friends for support, Talk or journal your thoughts. Change the furniture in your room. This may help your subconscious mind.
I send you hugs and know that this is a devastating time in your life. We are all experiencing this loss and know its a tough time.

Thank you!

It was the only bed in the house so I had to. The hardest thing for me to do was change the sheets, especially the pillowcase because they had his scent on them. It was a month before I stripped the bed. I never slept on his side. I would put my leg over there. Hugs, Colleen

Not to creep you out, but pretend he's there, because he just might be if he feels like "ropping in" for a visit!

When it'll REALLY get weird is if you re-marry, you may feel a tinge of jealousy in your former husband when there's a new man there. But your former husband will want you to be happy too, so he'll work through it.

"dropping in" I meant.

I bought a new bed but sleeping alone after 23yrs of marriage is still hard. It is hard.

I pray that it gets a little easier and you find a way to sleep a little better.

Many Blessings!

Not sure what I'm feeling...seem to feel sad no matter what part of the house I'm in. I have been sleeping in our bed since Paul died 3 months ago. My dog now sleeps in his spot. I have not been able to change anything in the room as I believe it brings me a measure of comfort to have everything still there. I did put out of sight all his medical equipment from his side table and put a nice picture of him along with his glasses and watch. At night I put the light on over his picture while I watch TV as if he were still there. This is sooo hard but we have no chose but to make positive moves forward. I believe our loved ones would want us not to fall apart but to be strong and honor their memories by doing what good we can while we are still here because I believe we all have a purpose and God will not take us home till that is completed. God Bless!

I have cleaned out all his clothing, and personal belongings. I changed the bedding, very girlie with lots of decorative pillows - he would have hated it, and painted the room. I am still struggling to sleep there. I go in and stand there, I put plants in there that need watering, so I have to go in there on a regular basis. My spouse committed suicide, not in that room - out in our back garage. I can't stop the thoughts about what he was thinking the night before as he lay in that bed? How am I supposed to go on without him. I feel so broken.

When my husband died I didn't sleep in our room for the first month. I slept ( didn't really sleep) on the couch . I finally went back into our room about 5 or 6 weeks later. My husband picked out everything in our room when we re did it about 2 years ago from paint, carpet and linens and spread. I love it and wouldn't want to change it now. I didn't change the sheets until I could no longer smell his scent and that was hard. I still cannot sleep on his side, but the dog does.

Yes, I know what you mean, the bed is very empty, I have a hard time even making the bed, I too use a pillow, but I put it in the middle of the bed. I think of my husband constantly, driving shopping,,all the time, I do not know if things will get better. I try not to think of living the rest of my life without him. I am devastated......Please email me if you like....