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heartsong69 06/09/2010

Hi, I'm glad I found this site. Of course it's not under the best of circumstances. Two weeks ago, my dear mom passed away in her sleep. Suddenly like that, she was gone. We were so very close. Many times before I asked myself, how would I go on if something happened to her..now am faced with it. I think parts of me are still in shock. Laying her to rest was almost more than I could handle as I nearly collapsed. This house is like a morgue now...and even seeing little reminders, like a post-it note she wrote, a half finished drink in the fridge ..can send me over the edge. She lit up any room she walked into, and always looked out for her kids without fail. Her spirit defied her age, and she wasn't that old. Also my family has had the grim task of clearing the clutter from this place and sorting through the rest of her things.
I won't make this too long. Just wanted to give you my story..and well, I really hope to make a genuine friend along the way also.
Thanks
Scott

deleted_user 06/09/2010

i can know exactly how you feel, i lost my dad 2 months ago, he died at the age of 47!! and um still in a shock! my dad was the strongest person im my life, he left very very suddenly without a warnning! i know u're hurt, so am i .. after my dad i hated every1 for still having their parents, i dont want to socialize .. i hated the house and everything ..
lately um shifting moods very fast it drives me crazy..
anyway I dont want to make it worse for u but i wanted to tell my story and to tell u that u're not alone .. there's alot of us who lost their parents too .. um sure that the pain wont last forever, u're always gonna miss ur mum but u'll move on when u remember that she always wanted u to smile and to be happy.
um here anytime if u wanna talk :) god be with u in this harsh time :)

deleted_user 06/09/2010

Scott I am so sorry about your sweet Mom. I am 5.5 months into the loss of my Dad suddenly the week before Christmas, still stuns me to this day that this is now the life I live.
I wish I had words of comfort but there just really aren't any. Just know that anything you feel is "normal". Be kind to yourself now, this is all about you. It's a dam hard road, I have no words to truly describe the pain and loss.
But there is some tiny comfort knowing somone else in the world can relate sometimes so keep sharing whatever you feel like saying whenever.

sending you big hugs,
from a lost & lonely Daddy's girl

heartsong69 06/11/2010

Thank you very much for the kind words and support..and my heart goes to you from losing your fathers. I'm not judging myself on how I feel..there is no "set of rules" for coping with this..and still not sure if it's totally sunk in yet. Also, I probably depended on her more than I should so it's an extra jolt. She was a great cook and well, I can't exactly duplicate it :(
Anyhow.. thanks for replying here guys

deleted_user 06/12/2010

My significant other passed away in Feb 2010. Deep down I knew it was coming, he had had trouble with cancer. But I never thought it would hit me like it did. I am still suffering from it 4 months later. One counselor said it takes 2 years. My one pschiatrist and my primary say that the dizziness is from the grief. It is scarry because it feels like I am going to pass out. I have learned not to take anything for granted. I am sorry for your loss and I hope in time it heals some

deleted_user 06/13/2010

I am so sorry about your mom.
I lost my mom back in 2001.

It still hurts.

Think about what your mom would have wanted.How she would want you to carry on in her memory.
And try to gain some measure of comfort from that.

deleted_user 06/13/2010

Scott, I am so sad for your loss. Two weeks ago means you may still be in shock?? It is extra hard when there is not time for goodbyes, no last words of love, and when you have such a close relationship as you mentioned. Keeping her notes with her handwriting, etc. will be a treasure for you......those reminders of who she is are so important in my opinion. Having lost my husband suddenly, I know how that shock makes the loss even harder. One thing I can tell you from my experience is don't lock your heart away......I did that and now have a big mess to fix.
Hugs, Jan

vader 06/13/2010

scott...I am sorry about your mother and I will be here for you.Please e mail me and tell me how you are.Vader.

deleted_user 06/13/2010

i lost my mum 2 weeks ago as well she had ovarian cancer and was only 52 i feel that i have lost my mum and best friend i spoke to mum everyday even if it was just to say hi. Even though we kinda knew what was happening i was in complete denial and praying mum was gonna get better and im still completely numb dont think it has hit me yet. Im very restless as for the last 7 months from mummy was diagnosed i have went with her to hospital visits and sat with her when she was in hospital she had been in hospital since 2 weeks before easter this time and it was just running to the hospital, work and college and in between i also had my husband and 2 daughters to look after. Sorry to rant on but if u ever need to talk just let me know as it is still very raw for the both of us. Hugs Liza

heartsong69 06/14/2010

Thank you all. I am grateful for this site. I guess you could say the shock and disbelief is still apparent. Things remain kind of a blur. Even though I sleep, sometimes I wake up in a sweat, like last night. Or I'm shivering. And henrietta I very nearly passed out at the cemetary when they were laying my mom to rest. Could've been the heat, but maybe not. Those reminders aren't going anywhere. Also, while sorting through the house, her belongings etc found a box she had put together, of things from when I was a baby..such as an envelope with some of my hair and a rattler. Seeing this obviously threw me for a major loop. I knew she did something like that but didn't recall the contents.
Jan am so very for your husband's passing. You have my full and heartfelt support. The same for the rest of you..henrietta, angrywolf, lizasc.
Your words and thoughts are taken in kind and I so appreciate them. Hugs everyone

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