No judgement here and no explanations needed. Just love and support.

I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. I lost my sister 7 years ago. I am at peace with it now, for the most part. At first I focused on getting my parents through that loss and put my feelings on the back burner.

I believe that emotions need to be confronted in order for us to process a loss. I was angry at my sister for dying before mom and dad, and leaving me to be the lone descendant. (My wife and children were a GREAT source of comfort for the losses of my sister and parents.) Getting that anger out, even loudly when I was all alone, really helped.

So if the circumstances of your loss may seem to offend others, by all means confront those feelings in a safe place. Here may be a good place, or it may not. Private therapy may help you get things out, and learn some ways to get through it.

Gentle hugs

I, too, was forced to be the one who took over so my parents could make her funeral arrangements. We have another sister, but her husband makes it difficult for her to help out, and she doesn't live as close as I do. I'm angry at my living sister for taking off after the funeral, leaving me to drive out every night for Shiva. I couldn't let my parents not have any of their children there. Some of my family has said some horrible things. I'm not mad at my sister for what happened, I don't think I'll ever be mad. I think I would be more at peace with it if I knew this is truly what she wanted, but it wasn't. My sister was a meticulous planner, there was no note, no will, and she was packed and dressed for work. The dark passenger came back and in that moment she probably felt she had no other choice. So many questions will go unanswered and I have to learn to live with that. My sister died four days after her birthday, the first birthday that I didn't text her. I know it wouldn't have changed anything, but I missed that last opportunity to tell her that I love her. We aren't making what really happened public, because my parents believe it's no ones business, but ours, and I agree with that. I'm sure people suspect. Close coworkers know, most of our family knows. The hardest part was trying to figure out what to tell my daughter. She came to me that evening, crying, asking what was so wrong with Auntie, she didn't understand. I didn't know what to say. I told her that her Auntie loved her very much, but she hurt in her head and heart too much. I didn't elaborate. If she asks, when she gets older, I'll tell her, but for 11, I think that explanation is enough, for know. I'm sure she knows since I openly talk about it to her father, while she's home. He pissed me off by comparing losing my sister to him losing buddies in the army. I told him that while I sympathize, it isn't the same. He signed up, knowing he might be killed, kill, or watch his buddies die. I didn't even sign up for being a big sister. I miss her so much. She understood me more than anyone, we understood each other.

Gentle hug Sarina … I am so very sorry for your loss and the pain that you're in

Finding a RL support group for loved ones of people who have committed suicide may be a big support for you

It's probably one of the most difficult deaths for anyone to wrap their heads' around due to the choice that people believe one has

However at that moment she felt desperate and chose not to reach out sadly.....

I would tell your daughter's father that he's hurting you and making things worse and I wouldn't discuss it with him anymore

A friend who he was in the military with and will maybe never see again isn't the same as your sister

This isn't your fault and please hear me.... There is nothing you could do when you had no idea that this would happen

Gentle hug..... She is at peace now and I know that anyone who has committed suicide would think again if they truly understood the pain that they leave behind...

She was at a place mentally that day that she didn't think about it due to being unwell......xo