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My younger sister

Tel
Tel

I lost my younger sister this past april she was only 30 she died from aneurysm. She was my parents 4th child out of 5 im the oldest i took care of everything helping parents with arrangements etc we wasnt very close but we did have a nice talk a week before she passed. I dont understand why i havent fully grieved. I get sad when some memories come across my mind but i havent gone through any stages. Seems like i went from shocked to acceptance. Im confused by this

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Tel..... I am very sorry for your loss...... We all grieve in different ways..... Not everyone goes through all of the stages...... People can go through one or two stages or skip stages ....

Things can hit us at different times.... I found for the first couple of years that special holidays were hard for me.... Another hug and a blessing.....xo
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I am sorry for your loss.

I believe that our grieving process depends on many things. Obviously we will not grieve if we did not know the person at all, and we will grieve more for somebody who was very close to us. So it makes sense that your more distant relationship with your sister could make your grief less intense.

That being said, ... SunCloud is right, it takes time. Allow yourself to grieve your way, and do not worry too much about how others take it. Many years ago we lost a real cool aunt; her kids were the same age as my sister and me (but genders were swapped). My sister was devastated, mom was very sad, and I was not very emotional one way or the other.

I found a bereavement class in real life helped me a lot when my dad died. We did some things to help us explore our emotions; for some of us it was an intense process, for others it was just another day.

Gentle hugs
Tel
Tel
Thank you
kristen1107
kristen1107
so very sorry for your loss Tel. i lost my sister to a staph infection back in march of 2013 it came totally unexpected two months after she had had heart surgery. my grief counselor told me you can jump throughout the 5 stages of grief and that there is no specific order that it comes in and it can change even throughout the course of a day. I know what seemed to help with me was finding a counselor to help me get through all the confusing times and i won't lie there are days where i go through a stage of grief regarding my sister. i can tell ya one thing i know for sure, it doesn't get easier but you do learn different ways to cope with your new reality and you will be okay. Im here if you ever wanna chat.
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