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My mom died on March 21st. She was sick most of her life but the last 6 months were the worst. She had pneumonia that turned into heart failure. I knew she was dying and we brought her home on hospice care because I wanted to take care of her. I wrote out a whole paper of things I wanted to say. My mom went into coma and I read the letter to her anyways and at the end of the letter, I said that she could let go... and she did about 30 seconds later. I have no regrets and I didn't even have a lot of sadness. I hate to say it was relief but it was... because we knew she wanted to die because she was suffering so much.
Now hear I am over a month later and I'm finding it harder to cope now. My mom was treated VERY badly in rehab centers and hospitals she was in when she was dying - before she came home - and I just find myself thinking of her being treated that way and thats the part that absolutely kills me everyday. She didnt deserve to be treated like that... nobody does. Just thinking of that alone just makes me sick.
Also, I go to church with my fiancee (I'm jewish, he's christian) and lately the past couple of times they go on about how non-believers wont get to heaven. I don't necessiliary believe that but its so hard to hear when you just lost someone and then that makes me even sadder for me.
I'm so terribly sorry for the loss of your mom. I know you have to,miss her desperately. I lost my dad recently. At first, I didn't grieve very much, but did later.
I'm sorry she wasn't treated well in rehab. Try to remember the good times, though I know it's hard right now.
I'll keep you in my prayers. God bless.
It's no doubt that this will be a very hard year but know that there is hope through it all and you will eventually find peace. I know it's not easy to hear things like that and it may not be much of a comfort to you right now, but my pastor told me something a few months after my mom passed away. He said "Part of your DNA is in Heaven now and you are just that much closer to God the Father and his son Jesus and your mom."
I hope i don't come across as offending (or say 'I am right, you are wrong' type of thing) especially in your time of grief. I only am trying to give some good news. Heaven is real! And as John 14: 6 (Jesus is speaking to his diciples) "I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." Those who enter heaven do not enter on the basis of merit (good works, good deeds), but on the basis of God's grace as bestowed by Jesus Christ (by accepting Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior).
Sending you a (virtual) hug and a prayer that you will get through this.
Melissa, one thing I've found that's helped me is to reframe my mind when I find myself starting to feel that guilt about the past. I will stop myself and remember the good things and focus on those. I hope you can find peace as you move through the grieving process.