Please check out:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Widows-Widowers/support-group

Lots of support and advice from caring people. ((Hug))

Thank you. I couldn't figure out how to Get to that link,

I am glad you found a link to the Widows and Widowers group! The loss of a spouse can be very difficult, and there are times when only a fellow widow or widower can really understand what you are going through.

Please feel free to stay active in both groups, there is not limit to the number of groups you can join here.

Yes, grief can be difficult to manage. We get that here! I have found comfort in the understanding that the stages of grief are not like individual things that you must complete before you move onto the next one.

There may be some sort of order that people first experience the basic emotions of grief, but the reality is that we bounce around between them. Sometimes we never really know why we seem to be going back to an emotion (or stage) that we thought we had passed.

There are many triggers that will bring out different emotions in you. (My MIL, who lives with us, criticized one of my meals. Mostly I misheard what she said. But in any event I started thinking of my dad, and how he would not have said something like that. And it has been 6 months since my dad passed away.)

Pay attention to things that set you off (these things are often called triggers because they trigger an emotional response from us.) It could be anything from a song he liked to a place he liked to eat to what ever.

As time passes it will get easier. That does not mean we love them less, it just means that we are coming to terms with what has happened.

Gentle hugs

I understand I was married 38 years .its like your so lost you dont even know who you are anymore .its been six months for me and I still feel so lost .I find myself waiting on him to come home .I pray a lot I cry more .talking helps but I know people are tired of me crying to them .im having trouble keeping myself togather .but I wanted you to know I do understand your pain

I'm living your pain,Patricia. My husband of 30 years died suddenly 2 months ago. Sometimes I'm more ok than at others...the littlest thing can start me crying, and it usually surprises me when the tears come.

It is very helpful to me to know that there are others who have gone through this and who understand what I'm going through in ways that my family can't.
I'd love to hear back from you if you feel like sharing
:)Lucie