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I lost my boyfriend two months ago, we are young, age 30, his death was a complete shock, I saw him less than 24 hours before this happened, and spoke what I believe to be minutes before his death (waiting on the autopsy still). I am having difficulty finding support, because, well, we weren't married, and I find that many people discount our relationship because of that. There was no secret we both were "the one" for the other, we talked engagement often (he told me he was going to marry me on our second date), even the night before. We also discussed starting our family together at the same dinner.
I hurt no less than someone who was married, I grieve the same, yet I feel so lost. Is there anyone else out there? Please do not get me wrong, his parents, brother and sister in law, as well as his extended family have accepted me as their family (as they always did). They keep me close, they know my grief, and they know I share in their pain, just sometimes, I feel so alone on a journey that I know is mine to travel. I miss his smell, his smile, his laugh, his eyes, his voice, his everything, no less than if we had sealed the deal, which seems to solidify the suffering for so many.
I hurt no less than someone who was married, I grieve the same, yet I feel so lost. Is there anyone else out there? Please do not get me wrong, his parents, brother and sister in law, as well as his extended family have accepted me as their family (as they always did). They keep me close, they know my grief, and they know I share in their pain, just sometimes, I feel so alone on a journey that I know is mine to travel. I miss his smell, his smile, his laugh, his eyes, his voice, his everything, no less than if we had sealed the deal, which seems to solidify the suffering for so many.
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Widows-Widowers/support-group
Looking forward to talking to you soon. Sharon
Grief is very very unique to each person and the person we lost. I don't think that anybody has the right to tell another that "you did not have standing to be that upset!"
Argh, I'm angry at them just thinking about it!
I had a dream where I lost the future Mrs. Pepper before we were engaged. I woke up very hurt that somebody would take her from me for no valid reason, and I was fumbling around for quite a while before I figured out that it was just a bad dream.
Please, feel free to vent here all you need! We are all in different stages of handling our grief, some of us are handling several griefs each of which is at a different stage.
Again, welcome to DS!
gentle hugs
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you can find comfort with his family.
I will definitely be checking out the Widow/Widower board, I didn't want to post there because of my prior experiences. I am glad to have found a place where people will understand.
His family has been very supportive, they have scooped me and and they aren't letting go, really a wonderful family (explains everything thing about him), I hurt for them too. I know I bring them pain along with the smiles because of who I am associated with, so I do give them their space as well. Luckily even with what today is, we have his nieces 2nd birthday to celebrate on Saturday and we will all be together for lots of love and support.
I'm glad his family is of support to you. That is good because you still have some connection to him through them (and yourself) but you know what I mean. Dealing with insensitivity of others is very hard and upsetting during this time because I feel like a lot of people just say stuff to be talking and then they will turn around and go back to their happy day and leave you even more sad and angry then when you started.
Yea, right.
I am so very sorry that you are getting the minimizing treatment.