I am so sorry for your loss. You will feel many things in the coming months. Nobody can tell you what the ordeal will be for you. It is different for each of us. But the one thing that is true for everyone is that you have to go "through it" to get "over it". Cry when you need to, sleep, ask your doctor if he can suggest something for you. Do what you need to get through. And don't ever feel guilty or wierd no matter what you have to do. It is all normal and eventually you will begin to live your new "normal" life and find happiness again. I'm here if you need to talk. jeanie

Hi Judiep, I am so sorry for your losses. Seems to me you have experienced more than your share recently.

I don't know how you feel about God...but prayer and time with God is what got me through my loss. Oh sure I cried a lot...three years after the fact I still cry now and again. I still miss my son. Death of a child is something you get through..not over.

You are correct, the support you are receiving right now will disappear...life will go on for your friends...but it will stand still for you. Even the initially numbness that we feel dissipates and the painful truth sneaks back in. The sting lessens over time...the timetable will depend on how busy you keep yourself and how you channel your energies. Try not to step into the guilty trap.....

I pray for you, that you will find peace and a safe place to rest. You have come to the right place though. I found much peace, love and understanding on DS. In fact people out here, were the only people that knew what I was going through...ppl out here didn't judge me, or turn their back on me...so my suggestion to you is to come out here often and get your strength from us. B good to U...

My heart goes out to you.

Hi Judiep,I am very sorry for your lose, you will never get over ur sons death. I losted my son from cardiomyopthy no warning no signs, he was 25 years old. I too have a daughter. The worst day of my life is when my son die, a piece of me went with him. I can only say to u I know the pain. I take it one day at a time. u r not alone. Cass

I'm very sorry for your loss.You need to remember that you have to take care of yourself first. If you feel like crying,then cry. Laugh when you need to laugh. But do take it one day at a time. And remember "That the will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you" God Bless You

Its very frightening and confusing to lose a child. Its the one tragedy in life we never prepare ourselves for, never can prepare for. Its one of those things that happen to other people, never to us and until its happened to you, you cant even imagine the conflicting emotions you experience.
We all cope with these terrible tragedies in our own way. Although the feelings are the same we each find our own way of dealing with them. Our paths through grief are our own and what I found helpful may not be of any comfort to you.
People do disappear after the immediate drama of death is over but your real friends and loved ones dont. We all heal at our own rate. No time is too short or too long, merely your way of coping with your own, personal, loss.
My son died a year ago and I understand your feelings and grieve with you for your loss. You will survive it and, impossible as it may seem at the present, you will laugh again. And you wont feel guilty for doing it either.

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my son as 1/27/08-mine only survived 41 minutes

I can tell you that you will never get over this pain, you are now a new person and really you cant try to be strong for someone else though it feels like what you need to be doing..
When you feel like crying-cry
Dont feel guilty for being happy at time-he would want you to be happy not constantly mourning his death
I wish I was there so I could wrap my arms around you and give you a Hug b/c the worse pain in the world is losing a child
Have you tried writing him letters? journals? that has been something to really help me and also I have talked to my son

I am very sorry for the loss of your son. Your daughter's father's death had to have been an awful blow now her brother is gone too.She has had 2 awful deaths and both suddenly just gone.Your poor father is not only suffering fron the awful disease, and then loosing his precious grandson. I am sorry for yor mom too. I lost both of my adult sons, and my step daughter. I also had breast cancer in 2006 and I am clear for only 2 1/2 years. So I am not cured. I was left grand children bu all 3 kids, they each had 2 children. You are early in your grief and there will be many many ups and downs on this road. You will feel out of controll and even wonder if you are loosing your mind. You will be having every imaginable kind of emotions, and this is the beginning. Your life is forever changed, and you will never be the woman you were before. It is a long, dark and difficult way to go. You can do it though as I have, and as so many of the wonderful people you will meet here on DS> I think DS honestly helped me to start to live again.(rather than just exsisting and doing what I HAD to do.)Here is a olace where there are many others who have suffered great pain and koss as well. THis is a place of love and of hope. I am here and I will talk or listen. I want to offer friendship to you. Love and prayers Peggy

I am so sorry about your son and ex. I think like others have said that you will never completely get over this. But the pain will change with time and you will adapt. I read your profile. I suggest you keep seeing the therapist and i suggest you keep in close contact with your whole family. We never know how long we will have them around. Spend as much time with your parents as you can. There are also grief support groups at some hospices. God bless. Scott

I am very sorry for you loss of your son. Only someone who has experienced this, can really understand the feelings you have at this time and will have in the future.

I lost my 37 year old son 3 years ago in a car accident. He left 3 children behind. He was divorced.

The fear of trains will subside in time though may never totally go away. As for your son's death, like Jean747 said, you must go thru it to get over it. I have not reached the "getting over it" state yet. I am not sure I ever will. I remember his birthday in January, his death in July, Christmas, and Thanksgiving, the days we got together as family. Being a minister and Pastor, I don't understand why but, I never blamed God or was mad at Him.

My prayers are with you and if you need to vent or talk, I am here.

Oldbiker