We all grapple with this one sooner or later. Just bear this in mind: no matter what caused the Big Bang and no matter why the Universe exists, we do live in a time-space continuum in which energy cannot be destroyed. No matter where he went, he does still exist on some level. It's unavoidable.

Hello.. I lost my brother 6 years ago. Ill be honest, I am a believer, but just not sure about life after death. If you believe, then the Bible tells us that in death, they are asleep, even the memory of them is gone. So another thing I question... if when we die, and IF we go to Heaven, then why is there a resurection in the end time? If we are already in heaven (or hell) there would be no point of a resurection. among amny mant other things from the bible, Im thinking there is not life after death, only untill the resurection when Jesus returns, then we will be caled up from the grave to meet HIM in the clouds. Would be a good study. :)

I never really thought much about that - the whole Big Bang or how we got here kind of thing. But your right, saying that energey can't be destroyed. It really is a strange thing, life and death. So many questions are asked about it but do we really know. Guess we don't, not yet. All we can do is believe that there is something else.
Sho I once believed the same as you and didn't think much of it, that there would be a time when Jesus would return and like awake the dead :S guess its a mystery.

No one knows for certain what takes place ones our spirit leave our bodies which is the shell for our spirits. I believe there is a God and have had many prayers answered that I know God could only take part in as he is the only one I've confided in with the things I've gone to him about and I've had signs from my husband not many but enough for me to believe he is in a better place then we are and that he does still see me and is with me . First step in believing if there is a God is to trust in him and believe try it you just might be amazed in what kind of response you get. Answer don't always come the way you like them to or in fact at all its all in God's time not ours but lean on him he's just waiting for you to do so. You will be in my prayers.

Hazy,
Listen to Rainbowmama - she is wise and well-spoken. I couldn't say it better myself, so I'll just refer you back to her post.
I am a Christian myself and I have to say that losing my Mom January 10, 2007 rocked my world. I questioned everything I had ever believed and I think that's part of grief. "Religion" is an individual belief, true, but it's not a coping mechanism - it's believing in the truth and leaning on God's love to get us thru times like these.
Blessings your way,
Stacie

we all ahve different beliefs but I belief in God. my nephew who was 36 committed suicide in sept 2007. i ve been to a physic medium twice that has a really good reputation. my nephew chris came thru lound and clear. he told me things that i did for chris that he did not know about. like writing a poem for him getting a tattoo. i do believe in the afterlife. i do belief the ones we have lost are always with us. you have to have faith to keep up with the strength we need to go on. im sorry for your loss. there are never any answers with suicide. I suffer everyday with it. take care and have a little faith.

I'm not sure of a religion,but I want to believe,that bruce is in heaven and he gets to see everyone that we ever loved who has passed on.Like my mom,his brother,Gerry Garcia,jimi hendrix,stevie ray vaughan,and any body else whos up there.I believe he saw the sox win the world series,he see's me .It gets me through

I know we all have different beliefs. Just wanted to share my family experience. I lost my brother on New Years Eve. He "died" about 4 other times over the years as he has been very sick since birth, but he always came back. The 3rd time we lost him for right at the 5 minute mark. We never told him he had died. I was the first one in his room and he told me he died, I said no you didn't, who told you that? and I was mad that someone had told him because he was very young at this time.. He said no one told me, I saw it..I was above the table and saw myself and the doctor's were cursing. He said he went to a place that was so peaceful and he spoke of angels. Many times he ask why they brought him back. This is about the only thing helping me get through right now.

I've heard about that kind of thing before aswell, about people "dying" then coming back to life. I guess you can't really truly understand unless it happens to you or someone that you know. It is pretty amazing though. Thanks for sharing that =) really to hear these things happening does bring a sence of peace in mind. Just to know that there really has to be something else.
I've also been thinking of going to a psychic. But its just finding the right one. And trusting that they are genuine. I am from Scotland and don't really know of any good pyshic's in or near my area. I might be willing to travel a bit down to London or something perhaps. But there must be something closer to home. Again, I just want to thank you all for ur comments its truly appreciated =) x

i'm reading a book called 90 minutes in heaven. it is about a man who died and went to heaven. he speaks about his experiences in heaven. i was skeptical at first but the man appears to be sane and the story doesn't feel like it was made up at all. i am terribly sorry for your loss. like you, i want to know where my mother is and what she is experiencing.

Hazy

I can only offer my experiences and conclusions. I have experienced the living presence of several relatives and a close friend after their 'death' or better 'cross over' (probably other words to describe it). I can not 'prove' they are still very much alive and well but I do know first hand that the ones I encountered are very alive and well. I could fill up a lot of pages about each incident but I will just say that several of my encounters were through psychics and at least one was with my own everyday consciousness.
In each case, the departed was happy, wise, at peace, having a ball, safe, comfortable, joyous and a lot of other positive things. some of them gave me forecasts about my future but most were just happy and non-intrusive. Their understanding and compassion was sage-like and calm. When a close friend, my brother in law died of cancer, I was there shortly after and directly experienced him myself in his Astral or spirit body (very difficult to describe) like an invisible cloud at his home. I walked through his presence and it was like walking through 'tingling' mist but not chilly. I would go into this but suffice it to say he was VERY happy to be out of his cancerous body. The other events have only cemented my realization that we don't die, we just transform and it's a very lovely state/place over there. I have no idea what all happens over there, where the go, what they do, if there's a god or other spiritual beings. In my brother in law's case, I perceived no 'other' beings with him. If this helps you accept that your departed husband is right there with you all the time since there is no distance or walls in spirit, maybe you will 'notice' him from time to time and enjoy his continuing presence in your life. Don't be afraid ashamed or uncomfortable with him being there. They do not judge, spy or critique our life here. They know it's tough and limited for us - but not for them. Welcome him and expect to contact him in whatever way he contacts you. That or visit a psychic and get in touch with him. It will help if you believe or accept that he has not left you at all and will gladly contact you in any LOVING way possible.
Good luck, JIm "