You're right. We won't know for sure what happens until we "get there." I'm sorry for your loss, and your deep feeling of grief and bitterness.
I know that in my own life, I have seen much evidence that God does exist and cares about each and every one of us. Did I just hear it from others? No, I've studied His word for years, seen things happen or not happen in mylife that could not be explained otherwise, and have had MANY answers to prayer. All I know is, I'd rather live my whole life believing, and find out there is nothing, than take the chance that there isn't , and never see my believing family and friends again.
I hope you find your peace. I'll be praying for you. Rainbow

Thanks =) I don't know if its maybe because I am still quite young and don't have much life experience. This is the first death I've ever had to deal with. Never been to a funeral either until his. I hate feeling angry toward him I'm still in shock for what he done. I think of how his family must be feeling aswell. I know how bad its been for me so much be 10000000 times worse for them

I don't believe in God myself. I lost my brother recently and have had a lot of trouble with the life after death thing. I want to believe that he is at peace but I never know if he really is or if I just need to believe it. It has helped me to read others stories and to talk to friends. I do know that it is our job to go on and give honor to the memory of our loved ones. He wouldn't want you to give up now would he?

hi, i think everyone has there own thaughts on it but mine is if you dont believe in something life would not be worth living because when things get hard you need something to turn to and have faith and strength to make it throught tough times because not everyone has someone they can trust or turn to but if you beleive in something then youre living because living is not when everything is going on its when everything else is not the things you dont focus on the good things when the bad out way the good the courige to not give up and love some one or an animal or finding youre self when you feel alone youre actually not there is help just all depends where you turn what door you open or how many will you sut untill you are all alone? but im just expressing my point of view and everyone has there own but thank you for the chat if you want to talk im here if not its ok too

This may sound really far out there but when Jim first died I HAD to keep telling myself not to believe in God and heaven.You want to know why?. I wanted to be with him sooo much that if I told myself I was going to see him when I got to heaven, well then I wanted to go right now. So for awhile I just made myself believe no God, no heaven. It's been 6 mths, and I still have a long way to go but I am trying to come around to the idea that Jim maybe with God where is not suffering, and is really happy. Hows that for being mixed up?? You are so totally correct, we will not know until it is our time. Don't ever worry about being scared, we are all scared on this journey of grief. That is why it is so nice to have each other. Hugs to you. Alice

its hard when you loose some one and you can feel confused in emotions and i sure was and im still having a hard time but not so bad sience i went through group threapy and boys it was hard and i did not like it until i made my self go and they shared there greaf and i knew then i was not alone and others were efected by death and dd not know how they felt but i seen and hered and participated even when i did not like it or was not sure what to do or think i tryed something new i was interested when the group was told they could now what there feeling before the course ended i thaught right then help me with my anger then why am i so angry and i cant cry? and im in so much pain and they got me and i found out and i was amazed and it was a free course from mental heath it was cool

I was just asking myself the same question about life after death. It's not enough for me to believe just because many religions say so. I understand that it is a individual belief.But if I hang on to the belief of life after death then deep down, I think it is just a way to feel better, to have hope where hope might not otherwise exist. Peace to you. msali

I lost my cousin and then my dad. Then I lost another cousin and then my mom. But the ultimate loss is when I lost my only child (for whom I had many many surgeries). If I did not have faith in God, there would be NO point for me..no reason to go on ...NO hope. I have spoken to God and I have actually seen Jesus (he came to me in my hotel room in chicago). I have felt God's loving arms around me..holding me up. And I know my child is with Him...along with all of my family. And they know a joy we can never understand in this world. Praying for a peace that passes our understanding for you and for all. Hang on..nothing to lose...everything to gain! Jesus is our Lord and Savior. We WILL be with our loved ones once again! Hugs, Lana

You are so right when my only chid (SON) was kileed at the age of 20 people said that to me .Well thats crap because he is suppose to be here burying me. And for a long time when I was told things happen for a reason I would simply say I pray you never go through this and feel my pain.

You are so right when my only chid (SON) was kileed at the age of 20 people said that to me .Well thats crap because he is suppose to be here burying me. And for a long time when I was told things happen for a reason I would simply say I pray you never go through this and feel my pain.

I'm sorry about the 2 replys and the word was killed not keeied sorry

Thanks for all of your comments =) it helps to understand that there are loads of other people out there who think the same. Who's views in Religion and life after death all differ. Alicea I totally agree or can see what you mean from what you were saying about heaven. I thought/think the same about Kenny. If there is a heaven then I want to go now. But I guess its just not that easy. I have thought about going for councilling or the like, but it's not for me =/ I guess when they same time heals, that could be true. Maybe I'll just stick to that theory. But then it scares me of hearing about people who are depressed and have been for sooo many countless years. I'm not saying I'm depressed, but scared I might wind up that way. Just somedays are so hard to see a reason to keep going. But thats just life, innit. Thousand's of people are much worse off than me.

No. You're asking / fearing alot of the same questions and issues that many do who don't believe in God or an after-life (either one). But it sounds to me as if you do believe in God and are just trying to come to terms with Him and the circumstances of loved one's passing. In a way, we all do - even "believers" who never question God's existence, etc.

I fall into that second category. I believe in my Faith, in God - and, therefore, I worry about my Mom's soul probably because we all think of death as the loss of the person. We know the soul is somewhere but we're not exactly sure. I lost it suddenly realizing I didn't konw what my Mom looked like anymore...where was she? I've been bereft over that - more than her physical loss - as well as with mistakes I feel I made at tht end. But I'm not angry with God or my religion (which some people are).

I get the same as you. People telling me I did all I could, she's with God, I have an angel in Heaven - and the topper? Someone telling me she'd have to be in Heaven by reason of her advanced age....gimme' a break. It's amazing how people look at things.

We just have to be courteous to those offering sympathies but steadily pray for our lost loved ones. There is a God. Talk to Him. He won't give you one-liners - just peace.

Maybe your right, I believe there has to be something, and that Kenny's soul is somewhere better than here, but where, who knows. I hear all the time of people saying they have proof that God does exist but I dunno =/ I have tried in the past to "talk to God" back in the days I half thought there was one, I think I only thought that because it was the norm, and most people believed in it, and because back at school we had a minister come in once a week and preach away blah blah. But I feel I'm moving towards the negative, that there isn't a God.
That's totally patronising what I just said at the beginning of this post. But I dunno, maybe I don't believe. I get scared thinking about what the religion says about people who take their own life, like do they wind up in "heaven" if there is one :S who knows.

hello, good morning maybe good after noon i got your response and i may have been sleeping but i wanted you to know ive lost people and i have not experienced loosing a child by death but only to loose a child by social workers and having contact from birth then have them make a court adoption and then i kept contact for 8 years till bang they took the contact away and boys years i was lost and did not care about anything it was like she died but she is alive and i cant see her anymore i just wanted to die to loose her was like my life was gone there was no perpuse in my life any more i was 16 when the court adoption happened and all these adults who were controling my life but no one wanted to help me i no its not a death but a part of me feels dead and has been for years untill i may see her or not again that is the loss i have for a child so far but for death ive lost my friend and grand mother and mother along with other relitives and was never taught how to deal with death basicly my family never speeks of the dead but i do and tha is how i deal with it i deal with alot of things diferent than my family because they like to keep secrets i dont beleive in and they dont talk when someone dies they dont cry eather i cant be like them it makes me sick