ever since Brads suicide...guess what? He was so right.All of the people that I have trusted have deserted me and one does not even call.And this is the reason for this column..How does someone help a survivor of sudden death? How does one confront her when you see them in the market? Well..the first thing you say is that"I heard about Brad.I am so sorry but I have been busy.How are you doing now?" You dont ask..."Did the old bag leave you any money" My friend dont know but there are 2 subjects that I get furious at...They are my mother and money.My mother died in 2003 at the age of 84 and we were at war since 1967.My mother refuse to believe that every tho I lived at home,I was an adult.And she treated me like a little kid...calling me a kid even in front of people she knew.One year..I came home from seattle and I was wearing the same clothes for 3 days.My mother refused to acknowledge that fact that I was on a greyhound bus for 3 days.she introduced me to the seniors.."Doesnt she look terrible.",my mother said..And it was another major embarrassment to me.I made a vow then and i discussed it with social security that under no circumstances if she got disabled would I come home and take care of the house.She was always screaming.I have been called selfish but noone has the right to constantly scream,yell and give people hard times because she never agreed with them on anything.My mothers
opinion had to be hers.She thought just like Rush.And I am sorry,people like this arent part of my life.It is because of these radio talk shows hosts that people believe everything they say.I dont.I work in seattle.I work for the salvation army and half of what they say about homeless people are lies................................................................................So how can anyone support a survivor? Number Two...when you see a person has got cats or dogs...why not buy them a big bag of cat food? Why not give them the 20.00 a month so they can keep their animals.......Number three...please stay away from subjects you know that the survivors feel about .It is none of your business Number four...on the day of the funereal.......instead of mailing the card...why not bring it over? And well you are at it...why dont you bring a tuna casserole because we had a great deal of desserts? On the day of the funeral...dont make an attempt to talk to the priest,rabbi or minister.They are not there to see or talk to you and if you have a problem,,,you call them on your time,.Leave them alone.What they discusss is none of your concern.If you werent concerned then,then why are you concerned now?And havent you thought of bringing a bag of groceries? And havent though that these survivors need support? So if the survivors cries and carries on..she is showing her emotions.Bottled up emotions can lead to migrane headaches,stress and ulcers.Dont tell them to control themselves.You have to cry and get these emotions out.If they were on the verge of divorce or living apart...why does it concern you if you were not around when Brad and i needed you? Do you honestly think that you are going to be invited over the house? Brad and i see people at the local coffee house.This house is a rental and one of the provisions...is no parties and this isnt a party house..and if you dont like it..that is too bad.I am alone now and i cant afford to lose the only house that I have known since I lived in seattle.It will be 15 years and Brad and I moved 3 times because of the conversions.No more moving...unless my landlord sells.And I dont think he will because the house sales in seattle have gone down and noone is selling and the banks here are not giving credit.And i would like it if you see me and i am alone..please dont make any stupid comment.People get remarried and remarried one of the reasons why my friend did was because she didnt like to be alone.I have been an loner in certain situations since I have been 8.I have got all the privacy in the world and i can write until I am content.Brad and i were loners together and this is why I miss him.Brad had many good qualities..but money problems haunted him and it lead to his death.I have applied to 7 different places.Do these jobs exist? I just signed up to be an Avon rep
.and my name will beonthe Avon.site.If you are i n seattle.call me and i will get you in seattle.only.And with this i will quit my column but the comments and people who have tried to help is making my cranky because some people dont know what to say..........how about this.
I heard about Brad.I am sorry.But how are you? DO you know that they
have support groups and low cost therapy in seattle.I would check it out...These are the words..I would like to hear...not sorry better luck next time.vader.