Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

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zoeykatelyn
zoeykatelyn

I just joined here, so this is my first post. Really I'm just trying to find people to talk to because I feel so alone. Most of my family is passed away now, but the one that effects me the most is my father. I lost him when I was 15, he was an alcoholic all my life. He literally drank himself to death. Now not only am I left with feelings of grief, but also feeling as if I never really got to know him, as well as feeling guilty for missing someone who might not deserve it. I know some of my feelings are irrational, but I can't stop them from happening. 

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Zoey.... I am so very sorry for your pain and your losses..... I'm older but have lost most of my family as well

My dad was an alcoholic but was able to get help and stop drinking

Addiction is an illness sweetie .... He wasn't a bad person he was a sick person...

You can love someone and not like everything about the person..... Your feelings aren't at all irrational

I think that they're normal

A group like Al Anon might really help you.... It's free and there are meetings all over.... They're for the loved ones of people that suffer from alcoholism

Another hug.....xo
zoeykatelyn
zoeykatelyn
I was in Al Anon as a teenager, but I'm not religious anymore, and AA is mostly based around God. Thank you for your kind words. I know you can love someone and dislike them too, but I question why I love him at all. We had some good moments when I was very young, but overall I didn't know him well and he was a terrible father for most of my life. So what about him and his actions warrants my love and grieving? That is what I struggle with. Thanks again.
lynette22
lynette22
Shoot you are not irrational nor are your feelings irrelevant...my biological,father never was interested in knowing me, alcoholic or otherwise...grieving the loss of that relationship is really just our hopes being dashed, hence why we grieve, regardless how much we love them or not...hugs
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