I am so sorry for your loss and I know how hard it is to cope with grief when life just keeps going. I mean when I lost my parents (at different times) I got time off for the funeral and to get things in order. But really.... a few days or a week.. come on I and everyone else still goes through so much grieving. On the other hand it did help getting back to normal (whatever normal is at that point)
I think we all go through something similar, but what I realized is that even if I had not lost my loved ones the people would still ask if my week-end was good. It's kind of like talking about the weather. And on some level I think they are hoping you actually DID finally have a good week-end.
I bet you are right and this is the anger part of grief for you.

I totally know what you mean.

But, I have a feeling that most people just say that automatically to everyone they see. "how ya doin, how are you, how was your weekend?" Its a rhetorical question. They don't really want to know. It's dumb really. Then we reply the usual..."fine".

But you are right. you are at the point now where I'm sure you are really missing your love one. It might be the hardest time for you, and people aren't thinking of that anymore maybe.

At the moment you are super sensitive, and the pain is still so raw. Also there is some anger in the business of grieving, and I feel that that is what you are expressing. It is pretty similar to people tossing the "How are you?" question in your direction. They don't actually expect a detailed answer (G--- forbid!) Allow yourself to vent your grief in any way that feels right for you. We are all in this group because we understand what you feel, and know where you are coming from. I will not dish up platitudes to you - it hurts like hell to lose someone!

Oh Bridget, I too have experienced similiar situations. I remember returning to work after my sister died. Not one person asked me how I was, didn't mention her death, nothing. My sister was brutally murdered. I think most people didn't know what to say. A simple I'm sorry would have done just fine. Instead I was treated like I just returned from vacation! It was devastating. I learned later that my boss had told all the employees not to ask me about it, just don't talk about it.
The only thing I can tell you is most likely you will be like me and be much more sensitive to others when they lose someone they love. Just a month or so ago, one of the girls that work for me came to my office. I asked her what she needed, she came into the office and shut the door and blurted out my sister died and cried and cried. I held her and comforted her and told her to cry and cry and cry. She's come to me a few times since then when she's feeling bad and we sit quietly and talk. I tell her about my sister and she tells me about her sister. I acknowledge her grief. I get it. And I'm certain you will do the same.
Hang in there
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Yes me when you posted your last post above my first time post.

I think when people don't know what to say to a grieving person they just ask general questions thinking there helping you but when you going through that process you tend to be a lit bit more irritable than usual. I experienced that 4 years ago when my mom died from Cancer people just said some of the dumbest things. I was so angry that I stopped answering the phone and screening my calls. I then realized I could not shelter myself from the rest of the world and that I had to work my through my grief slowly but surely. It will eventually get better with time.

About a month after my mom passed away, a "so-called" friend of mine asked me " OMG you've become slimmer than before, what diet are you on?" - I was starving myself, thought if I don't eat, mom will come back for sure.

You will get past this phase, don't worry sweetheart. We've all gone through the weekend horrors, I still do, sometimes.

Take care!

I know that when my dad first passed away I really didn't eat much for about 10 days. My husband was really starting to get concerned about that. I dropped about 10lbs. It broke a long weight loss plateau I was having. It certainly wasn't the way I wanted to break a plateau, by grieving because my dad passed away.