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I MISS MY DAUGHTER

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I STILL AFTER 7 YEARS MISS MY BELOVED DAUGHTER ESPECIALLY AT CHRISTMAS. I JUST GET HORRIBLE COMPLETANXIETY AND A DEEP SENCE OF SORROW. SHE WAS MY LIFE AND THE HOLIDAYS WERE ALWAYS SO MUCH FUN . SHE HAD LUPUS SO WE NEVER KNEW FROM DAY TO DAY HOW SHE WOULD FEEL. ANY WAY I HAD TO GO TO WALREENS AND THEY WERE PLAYING CHRISTMAS CAROLS AND I WAS LOOKING AT THE CHRISTMAS DECORATION AND I JUST STARTED TO CRY. I HAVEN,T SEEN HER OR HEARD HER VOICE SINCE JAN.18,2003, AND EVEN THEN SHE WAS ON A VENTALATOR AND COULD NOT TALK TO ME. ALL I CAN DO IS ACCEPT IT AND GO ON BUT IT JUST KILLS ME MENTALLY PHYSICALLY EVERYWAY. I JUST GET HORRIBLE GRIEF ATTACKS OUT OF THE BLUE OR PANIC ATTACKS IT IS SO SAD IT TOOK HER 81 DAYS TO PASS SHE SUFFERED SO MUCH AND I WAS IN COMPLETE DENIAL. I THOUGHT SHE WOULD BE COMING HOME.
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I am so sorry you lost your beloved daughter. She sounds like an amazing person, and how wonderful that you two had so much fun together. That makes it even harder to have lost her. I don't think it's a pain that ever goes away. I am so sorry for your sorrow and anxiety attacks and sadness during the holidays and other times. Life can be so hard and so unfair. I would have thought she was coming home too. I understand your denial. It's too painful to live in reality sometimes and so shocking that these things can happen to us.
I am very very sorry. Hang in there and know that you are not alone.
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My sympathy and support goes to you. I understand how hard your loss is. This is an especially difficult time of the year for those who have lost someone. I lost my 22 year old daughter Jennifer on January 13, 2008. Jennifer suffered from kidney disease, and was diagnosed at 3. Her kidneys failed, and she was on dialysis for the last 3 years of her life. This affected her heart and her sight. She died at home, and the sorrow and despair were overwhelming. I have had such a difficult time dealing with her death; panic attacks, depression and my relationship with my husband has suffered.
The only thing that helps me to go on is talking to people that I trust, support groups like this one, and writing.
Please keep reaching out to people, and know that others are struggling with loss and feel empathy for you. I would be willing to talk whenever you need to. My thoughts are with you.
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I wake up each morning - and feel an incredible emptiness. I lost my boy @21 last year 7/6/08. I have no idea how to let go - and Xmas is eating at me. I am not the same person. I am not the same human. I am terrififed I will feel the same way - 3 years, 10 years, 20 years - IF I MAKE IT THAT FAR....

They tell me that time makes the loss bearable. There is not enough time to let go. My baby was killed with a single shot - from some loser who has no life. He took mine and my 16 year old's too. I dont know how to LET go - but I suppose we shouldn't try. We should embrace the good, the beauty of our kids. The pain will not go away. I'm sorry to say.