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The man that I'm in a relationship with is fighting for life as I write this.It has been one year and a few months since he was electrocuted (while he was at work) and the complications started in August'16. he has had a number of mini heart attacks and was even pronounced dead on the 7th of September 3:27 pm. he is from the UK(manchester) and I'm from India and we are in a long distance relationship. He is 24 and is working and I just turned 20 still in university. I love him a lot and he means the world to me tbh I sometimes think he loves me even more. I come from a loving family and I had a good childhood but he has been struggling since he was a lil kid. He lost his father when he was 9 and it was just his little sister and his abusive mother growing up. ever since he was a baby his mother never loved him and sometimes tried to suffocate him and when his father died his mom would come home drunk and abuse him, puke all over the house and eat the food that he would buy and bring home for himself and his sis after doing small errands around the neighborhood(he started working part time when he was 9). but somehow things seemed to get a lil better as he was growing up but after the complications started and the heart attacks n hospital visits etc his mom is back to being how she was years ago. He is now living with his mom n step dad and his sis (whom he has looked after all her life) has entirely cut him out of her life. his mom has sent him to the hospital atleast 5-8 times after she would come home drunk and try to kill him and it's not safe for him to go out of his room at all. he goes to his hospital appointments alone and has no one to talk to except me or ask for help he has no contact with the outside world or his relations. it is my heart's desire to be with him at this moment but as much as I desire that I am still dependent on my strict parents and they will never let my fly to another country. this post is me asking for help to anyone who would read this and would respond or help in any little way you can. Im praying as i write this and hope that anyone would respond.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
Seeing someone we significantly love suffering is an emotional strain. And your description of his agony is astounding news. Indeed, he is a brave man. And, of course, you are seeking shelter from this powerful pain and conflicting thoughts. I send you and your beloved friend my humble care. As it is your heart's desire to be with him, let's start figuring a useful plan. I admire your wonderful love for this amazing guy!
In some respects, what we all hope for is what we see in our mind as happy & peaceful living. You each deserve a chance for a happier life. Change will come as you process a good plan. So, I recommend this one: Now is the time to change the worse of what you see as frightening to that of which you hope for or hope to be for each of you - in a positive light, and this is by developing an eye of unwavering, inspirational faith, roses. And by using what I refer to as your "spiritual mind's eye," the idea is to utilize your thoughts as a mighty tool and a sure device to cut away forceful thoughts of hopelessness & unhappy living.
Important it is to do this by faithfully bringing in ideas of godly change, for which you seek at present, and designing new ideas in your thoughts is much more promising than the griping pain of emotional doubt & frustration. I see it that while living out his life as a young child, with an abusive mother, the painful memories occupy an unbearable place in his heart & mind, and the many stages of trials and tribulations associated with this story are usually over-processed thoughts you each share. In order to obtain a comfortable way of life, there has to be a shut-down of unhappy memories, a closed mind to this heartbreaking lifestyle.
During times of those hectic swarms of emotions, find a safe & quiet place to meditate (calm & relaxed, purpose-fill thinking). Many people begin training by positioning in a relaxing position, usually on the floor, in a quiet room. Brace the body & mind to feel the heavy weight of pressure rising above you, as if floating off on a fluffy cloud, to the sound of melodious music. And do take a well-earned deep-breather as often as you want too. What you hope for is to obtain a healthy perspective by using inspiring imagery & sounds. All in all, the objective is to change your mind of the sharp events you describe herein your post. And this is somewhat of a complex action of relaxation technique, yet quite useful & doable. Do try!
Remiah ღ༺༻ஐ
I'm leaving you a link to study-up on visualization therapy:
https://www.sharecare.com/health/mind-body-therapies/visualization-or-guided-imagery