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Brad will be gone for one year on May 22nd.And what a trauma it was! I held his lifeless body in my arms for 10 minutes and then I called the police.I knew he was dead when I saw him.Before he commited suicide,Brad was drinking heavily and he was getting verbally and phyically abusive and I stayed because of the cats.The cats were getting scared of him and Kramer was hiding...but when I awoke on May 22....I knew that he wasnt alive.I trie dto get help for Brad.But he refused.He didnt want to go to Harborview and go to the emergency room at all..He would be alive if he did.Brad was no angel.He was a full blown alcoholic and drug addict.Brad was addicted to meth during his final days and meth is what killed him.To see the seattle police put the man that you love in a body bag and not being able to say goodbye was a bigger trauma.They told me he was all bloody and that the me would talk to me.The me told me that Brads liver was shot.He would have
died in two or three months.He has cirhossies of the liver.He also had acute alcohol poisoning and there would be brain damage if he survived.Why did I fail my Brad? Why didnt I get him the help? Is it because i was getting over a major mental illness and the doctor pronounced me well? Is is because Brad didnt want to live anymore? The house is quiet now.And there have been very bad changes.I dont eat a lot now.;I eat every two days.i cant afford food.Sometimes i go for days at a time without eating and sometimes I dont even sleep either.The doctor gave me med so i can sleep better and i do look a little better.My face is coming back to normal now and the bruises have healed.But right now I am in mourning and I want to know how long must I grieve.Sometimes I feel awful like I did today and I went to the bus station and I sat down and I cried.What would you do?
died in two or three months.He has cirhossies of the liver.He also had acute alcohol poisoning and there would be brain damage if he survived.Why did I fail my Brad? Why didnt I get him the help? Is it because i was getting over a major mental illness and the doctor pronounced me well? Is is because Brad didnt want to live anymore? The house is quiet now.And there have been very bad changes.I dont eat a lot now.;I eat every two days.i cant afford food.Sometimes i go for days at a time without eating and sometimes I dont even sleep either.The doctor gave me med so i can sleep better and i do look a little better.My face is coming back to normal now and the bruises have healed.But right now I am in mourning and I want to know how long must I grieve.Sometimes I feel awful like I did today and I went to the bus station and I sat down and I cried.What would you do?
I have lost many, many close and dear friends and family members and you do never 'get over it'. But the pain does eventually become bearable. Its just when one thing after another just hits and hits and hits, you just cant cope and when someone says something stupid like 'isnt it time you moved on?' you just want to scream and shout and f***in kill them.
The love of my life was murdered. I dont know if thats any worse than suicide? Cos it wasnt his choice... but I do know how you feel, I do feel for you, and I do think you will never get over it, but equally you should never have to, nor ever forget him or the happy times you shared. Its only a separation - you will be together again in time. Love to you friend xx
The left half is right---you never completely get "over it", but the pain gets more bearable over time... I have lost many of important family and friends in the last few months--- it is never easy, but time heals all wounds---I remember in high school that a friend of mine lost his father to suicide---just about my whole senior class showed up for the funeral--- I am sure that the family REALLY appreciated that!! It is important to have patient and understanding friends through this difficult time--- You will be in my prayers!!!
Tom B. aka Ihman
I pray for you my dear friend.