I am so very sorry for your loss. This is all so new for you and the pain is seemingly unbearable in the beginning. Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and try not to feel pressured. Others say things about moving on but your grief is your own. I do not think that there is a process of "moving on", but rather it is something that simply happens. At this point just getting out of bed, dressed and basic things is so very hard. In time the grief is not so overwhelming but for now just be gentle with you. ((((hugs))))

Karen, I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone here knows the pain of losing a loved one and you are most welcome here. Your friends are wrong. You don't just move on. Grief is the most powerful emotion you will ever feel. You will eventually learn to live with the loss but that's in the future. Lean on your sister as much as possible. Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. There is no timetable. Don't let anyone tell you you should be over it by a certain time. In fact there is no "over it". We are the sum of our experiences and losing loved ones molds who we are. If we cared about them then they left an influence on us. If you like books, I highly recommend "How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies", by Therese Rando. I've read 3 books on grief and this is the best so far. Again, my sincere condolences. Scott.

Anyone who tells you to "move on" after 3 weeks is an idiot, so don't listen to them. You will find some friends fall away. Stay close to your sister and remember grief has no time table.