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Home doesn't feel like Home for the Holidays

Vicky92
Vicky92

Hi Everyone, 


This is going to be my first Christmas without my Mom. She was always so big into holidays; I already managed to make it through 4th of July, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. While those were hard and caused me to break down....I think Christmas is going to destroy me. She was so into Christmas. I just don't know how to get through this....Any Advice???


Thanks

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Vicky.... My mom was always the holiday maker as well and things felt so bleak when she passed at holiday time and like you especially Christmas

Are you alone at Christmas or do you have other family??

For me it really came down to making a new normal.... You can always light a candle for your mom and say some words about appreciating all of the holidays that you had together

A lot for me came down to appreciating the family that I had and feeling gratitude for them however that took some time

I will often get out old photos at holiday time and go through them and they will often make me smile now however again it took some time to get there

If you're still feeling grief then I would let it out..... Big hug and a blessing.....xo
BluOcean
BluOcean
I feel for you Vicky...the holidays are very hard. Since the loss of my younger brother a couple of months ago, this Thanksgiving I decided to spend most of the day volunteering at the Gloria Estefan Feed a Friend event where they provided over 1,300 meals to underprivileged children and their families.

It took my mind off my personal loss and gave my heart something else to focus on, creating my new normal. I even spent the evening with good friends eating a non-traditional vegetarian dinner since my immediate family wanted nothing to do with the holiday. Hope this helps in some way. Hugs.
snflwrgrl
snflwrgrl
Hi Vicky. That is so hard!! I am so sorry. This is my fifth Christmas without my mom. We were very close and I miss her everyday. Have you considered GriefShare? It’s offered nationwide so there’s a good chance there is one in your area. I met other women there who were going through the same emotions I was so I no longer felt so alone and it gave me the tools I desperately! needed to start healing. It may help you too. <3 I will be praying for you throughout the holidays. I’m glad you reached out!! I hope you will reach out whenever you need to. Big supportive hug from someone who’s been there.
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