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TheGreatKate 11/27/2013

My fiance passed away on November 16th. Yesterday was his birthday, tomorrow is mine. It's also Thanksgiving. I was supposed to go to him on November 16th (we live in different states) and he was supposed to come back with me on November 17th and be with me until sometime in January. Tomorrow is really going to suck. He and I were going to start our own tradition of Thanksgiving at my place. My other options are not appealing so I will be spending my birthday/Thanksgiving alone. I'm trying to stay out of the depression zone, but I fear I may be heading there. I don't really know what else to say. I just feel alone.

deleted_user 11/27/2013

perhaps... joining you family could be a distraction. Although i am not opposed to you spending it alone. Let some healing begin... cry as much as you want until you cant and laugh over great times. Maybe watch his favorite movie.. i do that often when im down. Like you i'll be spending thanksgiving alone without my family this year.. since dads passing it just isnt the same. i think im going to get me some icecream some food go home and try my best not to be sad.. hang in there.. many of us are in the same boat.

koolman 11/27/2013

I second "watch a movie" or 2 or 10. There just might be a character in a movie who is experiencing the exact same thing you are. Then let those emotions flow, into that character.

TheGreatKate 11/27/2013

I think I am going to do what you suggested and just stay home and watch some movies. I'm hoping today I will feel a little bit better, but I am not optimistic. Thank you for your suggestions *hugs*

cliffskat 11/28/2013

Kate, I am sorry today is a sad day for you. My husband Cliff died Veterans Day (2007) and that first Thanksgiving I was still in shock and an emotional wreck. Friends took me and my sons in for the day and fed us, I couldn't manage it, that's for sure. My sons and I spent a lot of time in the first holiday season just watching DVDs because we couldn't cope with all the commercials and holiday specials on tv - too painful for us - so watching movies today might be a good idea.

I won't lie and say it's all easy to get through, it's not, but you will find it does get easier. I am sorry for your loss, and I know today is difficult - I wish it weren't - but wanted you to know you aren't alone.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

TheGreatKate 11/28/2013

Thank you Martha. I appreciate your support. I am going to make some chicken, stuffing, mashed potatoes and watch some movies.

Wishing everyone a Happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate today.

deleted_user 11/28/2013

You're a brave young woman with strong self awareness. I spent the entire day watching "Breakout Kings" on Netflix. The day is almost over little sister. You survived it. You will survive the days yet to come.

TheGreatKate 11/30/2013

Thank you DaughterofLourdes...I survived, but I am still having a rough "day." I think it's more like having a rough week. Today is 2 weeks since he left us. Don't know what else to say. Just really having a bad time.

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