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going back to work

Jat07
Jat07
i am suppose to go back to work next week.....dad died may first....i watched him die i was with him. in 98 my mom died i actually worked her she went into cardiac arrest in front of me. I am a paramedic i have seen alot of bad things over the years.....and now i dont want to go back to work but i have to. I dont want to interact with any of my co workers i am afraid they will ask about things or give me advice i dont want from them. i am not worried about doing the treatment in the heat of the moment just dealing with all the emotions i am just exhausted getting through the day now. talking to people on the phone or face to face is the worst it seems to require more energy than i can bear.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Being in the medical profession, surely you are aware of the benefits of antidepressants. My daughter hung herself on Jan 31st. After one month of being prescribed Celexa, my world is so much more calm. I still miss my daughter, but I don't dwell on the sadness so much anymore - now I'm able to remember the great times we shared. So grateful for the time God allowed her to be a part of my life. Just because you need an antidepressant now doesn't mean you'll need them the rest of your life. I, too, had to go back to work & couldn't function. That's when I went to the doctor. My experience has been positive. I hope you're able to find a way to deal with your grief & still function. Thinking of you. Vikki
Alibongo
Alibongo
I can totally understand that you can hardly bare to go back to work next week. I think people will be very gentle with you though and not overpower you with advice and questions as they will sense how emotional and exhausted you are right now. I would imagine the people who really matter will just want to let you know that they are there for you if you need them.
Take care now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry about your loss. I felt the same way when my brother died. I couldn't function well, I had to go back to work even when everything in me wanted to stay home under the covers. What I've found is that going back to work gives one a sense of normalcy, especially if you've been at this job for a while. Getting back into your old routine will help you deal with the stress and not dwell too much on your loss. Its very tough and we all feel your pain, but I promise, it'll get easier with time. Two or three months ago, I would not have said that. June is the annivesary of his death and it took me this long to accept or deal with it. Hugs and prayers go out to you.
1Patriciann
1Patriciann
After the death of my husband I found people around me moved on with their life and I was left pretty much alone to cope with my own pain. Yes, a few questions were asked and people, I suppose, did their best to show concern but, overall, everyone simply moved on and I was left to try and pull myself through alone. That was the hardest part of dealing with his death for me.

You are in my thoughts and I care.

Gentle ((hugs)) Patricia
deleted_user
deleted_user
I too went through what you are experiencing now.when I went through mil;tiple deaths in my family.If you have more time to be on leave, it would be good to do so( to recoup) until you're more ready to go back. What i gathered from Grief Share program is that ,it is good to have a grief letter or note to hand out to co-workers or people who will be asking you questions(many times) when you go back to work. A sample one contains thanks for their asking, but also add something on what can help you at this time.. Guess you can find a good suggestion on this when you check the site. Please take care of yourself too at this vulnerable times.