My thoughts an prayers go out to you and your family on the loss of your child. I do believe that they know that they are gone, however I also believe that they remain around us. I have to believe that.

My son was 21 when he died. He lived in another city. He passed in the middle of the night, 4:49am, I was sleeping. Suddenly I was jerked from my sleep, I knew something huge had happened, I just didn't know what. His dad and sister had similar experiences that night at the same time. We all felt him hanging around for a couple months, then one day he was gone. He comes to us in dreams, he knows he's no longer living on earth. Yes, they know.

When my son got killed his best friend had a dream about him the same night. In this dream Terry told Devin that everything was okay and told Devin not to worry and all that had happened was as it should be. Devin said that Terry was happy. This comforted me to hear it.
I don't understand alot about death all I do know is that one day we will understand all that happens in our lives good or bad. In the meantime I just hold on to the promises of God that we will see our loved ones again. I hold onto to God and all that he is and he gives me peace my heart. I love you and will be praying for you.
Debbie

i am so sorry for your loss of your son Kelly........to answer your ? i would try reading ''90 minutes in heaven'',i think it will answer your ? and a whole lot more.......

I had to reply.I am sorry about your loss.You are asking questions that I simply dont have any proper answer for,but let me tell you this.when you have a sudden death it is hard for the living.It will take time and do things that will help preserve the memory.I will be thinking of you.Please write me again.Vader.

When my son died 16 years ago, I had this dream within a few days: My son came through our bedroom door like he always did telling us he was home. I was shocked and perplexed that he was there. He came and sat on the end of the bed with me, holding my hand. He looked up at me and said "I am dead, huh?" I said yes. He then went to my end table by the bed and started rummaging through what was in there. Then he was gone. I woke up and immediately rummaged through the drawer, but I didn't find anything significant. I was very disappointed. Much later on the first Mother's Day without him, I was crying in my room. For some reason, I decided to clean out my end table. And there it was - a handmade Mother's Day card from him when he was younger. I couldn't believe it but I know Sam did this for me. It gave me much-needed comfort.

When my oldest son died of suicide about one year ago, I dreamt that he was with me. He was walking with his arm around me very tightly as I was crying uncontrollably. He was trying to comfort me, but no words were spoken. I woke up still feeling his arm around me.

In answer to your question, I do think those who have passed know they died - but it isn't a big deal to them. They are with us, like always - I feel both of my son's around me, at different times. I'm sure that is their way of comforting me. Those left behind are the ones who are so horrifically wounded and I think it troubles them that we are so full of grief.

But grief and loss is what it is, and I know someday I will tolerate my oldest son's death as I have done with my second son's death 16 years ago. Losing two sons in my lifetime still brings me to my knees. I think of them constantly and I miss them. peace, Shirley

I have never lost a child so I can't even begin to know what you are going through. I have lost other close family members in the past year and I too think they know they are dead. A few months after I lost my Dad in 2005 I had a woman tell me I had an older man around my family. She said he was torn between needing to be here for us, because he had always taken care of us all and he knew we needed him, and going where he needed to go. We weren't even discussing anyone in my family or anything even romotely related to this. I knew right away it was my Dad. So be comforted in knowing that they are here for us. They know when you need them. They also know that you Love them. They will give you signs if you watch for them. Sometimes its as simple as a bird at your window or a hat sitting on your bed that wasn't there before. They will let you know.

None of us really knows, but I do beleive we go back to the God who created us. I also beleive my parents watch over me; they arent dead but in a different place from here. I am not saying that I am not still greiving for my Mom, only that I beleive in a loving God who is with us in our pain, can help us heal, and knows the pain of loss himself. I hope this helps a little. Hugs and love to you, Nancy

Im so sorry for your loss, I too lost my daughter to a car accident. Its just so awful! And seems so senseless, I miss her so, I know how you fee believe me. my daughter knows she has passed on, and is in heaven feeling sorry for us down here having to cope with every day life. Im sure your son is also. We have to wonderful gift of memories.