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vader 08/20/2014

Here is a question that I would like to point out and I have noticed this.But do you notice that people intentionally ignore the grieving and this practice is down in the upscale business world.In 1987,I was a clerk typist for a well known bank in the city of New York.I loved my job and i was a tempoary employee.I was always on time at work and took the breaks when I was told to.But on November 1st 1987,my father died suddenly and it shattered me for years to come.I called on that Monday and I was so upset.Wouldnt you be? I talked to the supervisor and they posted it on the bulletin board and the bank sent me lovely flowers to the funeral home.The people in the bank were so great and i miss them to this day..but when i returned there was a chilly atmostphere in the bank.It was as though it was my fault that my father died.One women whom I had coffee with everyday...just stopped speaking to me and the girls did not invite me to go to shopping.It was like I was dirt.Why? Dont people realize that us greiving people need social justice at this time?Why are people so snoby? I was ignored and I felt it.It was like I did not exist anymore and from I hear from my New York friends...this practice is still going on.Now it is time to eliminate this and eliminate is this year.Dont ignore the grieving>...Dont shum them.They may just have to have someone to talk to and reme mber this...all of us have problems..but my father died suddenly and sudden death is on the increase and it can strike anyage.Has anyone been shunned?

deleted_user 08/20/2014

I feel the same way. People just stopped calling, emailing, stopping by, etc. And then when I saw some of them, all they talked about was themselves an their lives. Their lives weren't just shattered and torn into pieces. You would think they would be providing us support and asking us how we are doing, if there is anything they can do to help, or just offer to listen to us and let us grieve with them and talk to them about our loss. I felt, and still do, feel alone and shunned. My step-children have written me off and won't speak to me, I don't even have any idea where they are now or how they are doing. They blamed me for their father's death when I was the one who took care of him every day and they were never around. I hurts a lot. People just don't understand that your entire world was just shattered and all you need is love, friendship and support....and I didn't get any of that. So, yes I have been shunned as well.

koolman 08/21/2014

They don't like to be reminded of their own death or the death of someone they love. But it's a fact of life!!! We all might as well embrace it and make peace with it!!! And realize that love, being there emotionally for those who are shattered by loss, is the only thing that transcends the grave!!!

vckmag42 08/21/2014

I think that the reason is that they are at a loss of words. Don't want to upset a grieving person and they don't know what to say. Grieving is hard enough for people who are suffering a loss but a person who is sympathetic doesn't know what would benefit the situation.
I am coping with grief and the loss of my son. It could hit me anytime for any reason or no reason at all. Someone's laugh might sound like my son's or something someone says might remind me of him or the day of his death. It's a very sensitive subject and I too have bad feelings toward my son's ex GF because I feel she contributed to his death. Anger is part of grieving but I'm trying to move past this and I know that having a grudge against someone doesn't benefit anyone!
I can't say I've been shunned; it's been quite the opposite, luckily I have a wonderful family and friends that have rallied around me. I know it's important to grieve and let my friends know that I loved my son.

sparkyslove 08/21/2014

I've had the opposite experience. My husband died a little over a month ago. I took 2 weeks off and when I came back, it was emotionally difficult. My coworkers come in and ask how I'm doing. I have friends and family that still text me or call and ask if I need anything or need to get away, or just to see if I'm ok. I'll sit in my office and cry and my coworkers understand.

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