Hiya im just dropping a message to let you no ur not alone at one point in most peoples life we have to face these things and unfortunetly thers no easy way out in my opinion, once you loose someone so dear to you it feels like a part of you has went with them but as hard as it is i think the only way to help yourself is to come to realise that the person you have lost would not want to see you dwelling over it and that you will never fully get over brevement but the best thing you can do is accept it pray and keep them people in you heart and thoughts but you always have to remeber in the morning when you go to get out off bed is that you have a life to live and be grateful of the family you have around you and enjoy every minut you spend with them and stay strong and live your life we connot prevent a persons death but celebrate ther life and the times you have had with them and remember they are always with you and when you think you are in ur room alone and thinking off how much you miss them they are always with you just because you cannot see them dosnt mean they are not ther ino my advice isint going to fully help your loss it taks time i lost my daddy step dad and granny in one year and uncle and two cousins the next but when i think off the loss i have had i dont just think why did they have to be taken away but also when you go through so much in life you hit rock bottom then the only way is up i wake up every morning and look at my brothers and sister and my mum and im soo happy that i still have the chance to talk to them everyday and enjoy life together thats what keeps my spirit alive xxxx

i am so sorry for the loss of you mother and grandfather i know how difficult this is for you now. when my father died i felt like i was missing a part of my right arm the strangeness of losing that relationship was so surreal to me. i felt like i was on another planet just navigating my way as best i could each day was like a blur.

like you I had a very beautiful experience with my fathers death as well and for me there was something very holy taking place within the room even my nephew who is not spiritual at all said that he felt something that he had never experienced before now he is questioning gods presence it is something that can not be described or explained it just is.

right now I have a mother and brother who both have brain tumors
one has cancer the other non-operable both prognosis is dim.
so my grief journey has not ended it will continue for me one by one. god bless you................

Catie,
I lost my mother less than three weeks ago and the pain cuts deep, I know. The funny thing is I thought I would be able to handle this grief as I am a licensed therapist, but everything I have told my clients over the years just goes out the window when I think of my mom. She was my best friend. The thing that seems to help me most is to listen to music. She loved Christian music and I find I feel close to her when I listen to the songs she loved. I also feel at peace that she knows my pain and is waiting for the time my family will be reunited. everyone grieves in a different way but please know your family would not want you to be prostrated with grief. You will be in my prayers. Rhonda

Hi Kitcat817 I lost my mother 2 months ago. I miss her every day. I still cry my eyes out everyday for her. But I must say it does seem to be easing with a little time. We can now talk and joke about some of Mom's stuff she did. I suffer from severe depression and at first I thought I would crash but my Doctor told me I would have just old fashioned grief and had to work through it and so far he has been right. I find reading everything I can get about grieving and loss helps me,makes me see I am not alone with these feelings and there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong one day at a time. Good luck Tracy

I lost my 23 year old daughter four months ago. Grief is an ugly thing. What is helping me is my certified grief counselor. Not every therapist is qualified to deal with grief. You need a safe place with a professional who can help you sort through all the feelings (and there are many) you have, the guilt you might have (normal part of grief, for some reason we think we did the wrong thing, said the wrong thing, remember moments of frustration, etc.) and anger (and yes, we get angry at the person who has crossed over and this is normal). I urge you to call the county mental health facility and ask for referral to a grief counselor. Meanwhile, take one day at a time.

I read your journal entry and I can see you and your mom had a very special bond. I'm so sorry you had to go through the pain of losing her. I lost my mom four weeks ago today. I'm in a bad state emotionally and physically and I don't know if I can say anything that would bring you any peace. All the I know is that in all this, our moms are no longer in pain. That is the only consolation I have, otherwise; nothing else is fair about not having her here. I miss her so much, I just want to go be with her. I feel like I'll die an untimely death cuz I've been so sad and unhealthy since she passed.

Sorry all, it's been awhile since I last posted on the group message board. Thank you all for your support and advice. Unfortunately, on October 14th, I found out that my dad passed away suddenly. My emotions that I thought were getting better, in dealing with the deaths of my grandpa and Mom earlier this year, immediately returned. I feel like I've had to start over with the grieving process. It's still a daily struggle. But my husband tells me that he can see I've made some progress. Honestly, I can't tell much. It's a still continuous whirlwind of emotions; however, a little more under control. It's still very frustrating, agonizing, saddening, lonely, depressing, etc... Looking for a support group, but it's been difficult to locate one in my area. I just know that the holiday season will never be the same. It is forever changed. For now, it just makes me sad...

I hope that all of you have a blessed holiday season. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.