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Hello,
I know that death is a normal part of life but why does it have to hurt so much?
In a few weeks, it will be 2 years since my mom passed and it has now been 30 days since my dad passed too. My husband and I were talking a few weeks ago and he said ever since my mom passed, I kind of lost the spark in me. Is he right? Could I have lost my spark? He also told me that to him, I haven't dealt with or coped with my moms passing. He wasn't saying these things to be mean or to be unsympathetic, he was saying them because he wanted to help me. Does this make sense?
So my question is, how DO you cope or deal with the passing of a loved one? Is there a magical way to do this? Is there a book that can help me through this? Is there a web site that I can go to where I can read about it? Or is it that maybe I'm just not ready to do this because in my fears, if I do fully cope with and deal with their deaths, it means it's final and that they are really gone? Ok, I know in my head and heart that they are really gone.
Thank you
I know that death is a normal part of life but why does it have to hurt so much?
In a few weeks, it will be 2 years since my mom passed and it has now been 30 days since my dad passed too. My husband and I were talking a few weeks ago and he said ever since my mom passed, I kind of lost the spark in me. Is he right? Could I have lost my spark? He also told me that to him, I haven't dealt with or coped with my moms passing. He wasn't saying these things to be mean or to be unsympathetic, he was saying them because he wanted to help me. Does this make sense?
So my question is, how DO you cope or deal with the passing of a loved one? Is there a magical way to do this? Is there a book that can help me through this? Is there a web site that I can go to where I can read about it? Or is it that maybe I'm just not ready to do this because in my fears, if I do fully cope with and deal with their deaths, it means it's final and that they are really gone? Ok, I know in my head and heart that they are really gone.
Thank you
That said, everyone grieves differently. I am very expressive and usually have no problems letting my emotions out. My dad on the other hand tends to grieve in private. I guess we're both dealing with our loss our way, which is always the right way.
Acknowledging the loss and accepting it are not the same. Don't be too much bothered about getting over it. You will gain your "spark" when it's time. Being an adult orphan sucks...
Books - I read a lot...my favorite on grief and death are "Motherless Daughters", "I Wasn't Ready To Say Goodbye", "On Greif And Grieving"...