All the "visits" I have experienced have been in livid very detailed dreams. I have read much on the subject including all of Sylvia Browns books. I also went to see one of her lectures when she was in the city, which cost me over $100. So I have an opinion. I believe that when we really need someone, they are allowed to visit us and guide us. Mrs. Brown believes that all people have visits and people from the other side are always close by and will find ways to let us know. I can only say this. When what I have is a dream, it is difficult to remember all of it. Like a cloud you see a glimpse and then it is gone before it takes a firm form. But a visit is different. You feel it, taste it, smell it. It is clear and formed. Years later you remember every single detail, every word, everything about it. That's how I know. I experienced it when my brother died and he had a message for my mother. The dream came for three nights and on the third one line was added to the dialog. "You have to tell Mom!" I told her and the dream never happened again. The message was he was ok and not in any more pain. And that Dave was with him because of something with his head. The day I gave my mom the message my Uncle David died of a sudden brain hemorrhage. I have had three visits from my sisters death, one where I was with my mom and she was caring for babies that my sisters had lost. The thing was, I didn't know my sisters had lost babies when they were young. I never got a direct visit from my mom or dad. I do not know if the things you are describing are Brad or not. I don't know, but you will know when they are real. The more common visits are finding change around where it was not before. Butterflies and birds flying around you in a noticeable way. The scent of them in a room is common. If this is something you believe in or are open to, I think you should read some of Ms. Browns books.

Yes, Vader, I think we can contact the dearly departed, in our dreams! They're OK, and have plenty of the love of God to sustain them, so they probably don't feel the need to contact US, but if they feel us tugging on them, I believe we can commune.

Just meditate on this Brad character before you fall asleep at night and begin thinking of him, even talking to him, tell him how much you miss him, etc. When you drift off, maybe you'll astro travel to where he is, and hang out with him for awhile! If so, it'll be the best night of sleep of your life, believe me. I've had several deeply satisfying encounters with my brother, and there was nothing dramatic about it, it was just so matter of fact, and so real, like we were simply talking and laughing on the patio. It's great!

koolman I love the way you talk. It is refreshing to see someone who is grieving and yet optimistic and reasonable. Somebody raised you right my friend.

Thanks. I've got two really nice parents, and we've had rather open discussions about the death of their other son, my brother. They're handling the loss in their own way, but it's nice that we can bounce ideas off each other. My mother agrees with the astro-projection theory. She's progressive, into all kinds of reading about spiritual matters, so it's a good fit for her. My dad is strict Catholic, and his thinking seems to be a bit more limited, but he's made some new friends and golf buddies, and seems to be doing quite well. We're about to have a new life in the family too, my sister's son, due into this world next week, so, in addition to my other sister's son, who was born 8 days after my brother passed, having a new little soul to love helps!

I believe they do. 2 days after my husband had died I was in my house with my sister in law. I got a call on my cell phone. It was my sister in law that was standing right next to me. I told her it was her and she said her phone was in her purse and that she had shut it off. She then showed me that it was completely off. She said it was my husband letting me know that he was with me. The first night I went back to work, I got off at midnight and I parked my car in carport. My cell phone rang and it scared the living daylights out of me. It was my sister in law saying that her phone rang and when she answered it there was no one there. She called me because she knew I just got home. She told me what happened and I told her that it was my husband calling her. Because he use to watch for me when I got off of work and would call me on my cell when I pulled into the carport. I have also had dreams like you have had.

I BELIVE YOUR DR IS THE CRAZY ONE...THE EVENING OF MY MOTHER'S VEIWING AND AT HER FUNERAL SEVERAL PEOPLE HEARD MY MOM SAY MY NAME... A FEW WEEKS LATER OUR FRIEND, WHO LIVED WITH US PASSED, WE HAVE HAD MANY VISITS FROM HIM//I BELIVE IT IS THEIR WAY OF LETTING US KNOW THEY ARE STILL WITH US AND THEY ARE OK,,,,I AM A BIG BELIVER OF SYLVIA BROWN...SHE HAS MANY BOOKS ON CONNECTING WITH THE OTHER SIDE...THESE MAY HELP YOU FEEL ALITTLE MORE TOGETHER GOOD LUCK AND PLEASE , YOU ARE NOT IMAGINING ANYTHING, GET RID OF THAT DR.

I believe. My husband has visited me several times since he passed just 12 weeks ago. A few times in a dream and several times during the day. Yes, he drops coins here and there - where no coins should be, these are known for years as "pennies from heaven". Once he played a joke on me with his bathroom lights. I was journaling about struggling to find the light and I got up to go into his office bathroom and the lights would not go on. Mind you, it's not just one lightbulb, but a light bar with 5 lights... I flicked the switch a few times. Nothing. Then suddenly the lights went on. My husband loved a good joke or pun - guess he showed me what "struggling to find the light" was really like.
And I agree - find a new doctor.

It was about 2 weeks ago i was sleeping very soundly when i was awoken by my television set at about 4:30am clicking on and as i sat up to look it turned off i tried to wake up and not panic and quickly turned on the light on the side of the bed I jumped out of bed and began to look why it had turned on and as i was looking at the tv it turned on again!! and a few seconds it turned of right in front of my eyes I was a little afraid then something said have no fear and i replied back well you certainly have my attention thats all i could say i was shocked it since has not happen again. so i think someone maybe my dad was letting me know he was near but i wasn't scared actually i felt very at peace..........

to all who replied..let me thanbk yo9u for your advice.I do believe that Brad is in heaven and he is watching me.The anniversary of Brads death was on the 22 nd of October.It was 17 months and you know I only cried and I did feel down for the whole day.As for this doctor I am planning on getting a new one...He doesnt understand the length of this grief and this grief is slowly hurting me.Brad was all I had and it has been hell without him.Kramer has been a different cat and she has become happy.She likes to tease and hide things around then house and she does miss Brad...but she is one specila cat and Kramer and I thank all of you.

The dead do contact us. You are not crazy. Brad is doing all that, not you. Just cuz u can't see him doesnt mean he doesnt exist. Try talking to him. That's his way of saying "I am here." To let u know he is still existing is his way of comforting you.

Vader, you are most definitely not imagining things. I believe we are visited by our loved ones who've passed. The way they contact varies for me, from just sensing their presence to the physical signs you're getting. Once when I was desparate for a hug, I felt arms around me! I had whooping cough last year and after the worst night of coughing of all, I woke to find the room was full of them. My ex father-in-law died recently and he travelled in the car with me for part of the journey home from the funeral. At least 2 of my relatives who've passed and one of my dear friends who died last year are with me all the time. I find it comforting and heart-warming as well as an honour. I pray for many of my friends and relatives who've passed and talk to some of them. I burn candles for my friend who died last year and have been told by an angel reader that she loves it and also loves that I burn incense regularly. I have one of Sylvia Brown's books but have read many books on the subject including Allison DuBois' book "We Are Their Heaven : Why The Dead Never Leave Us" which would be a good place to begin your learning if you want to know more. Go with it. It's ok to laugh at Brad's jokes and pranks. He knows how much he means to you. Be glad you're one of the lucky ones who can receive the contact. It can give you a lovely warm sense of peace and love.

I would like to add that I too agree with many of the statements made by those members that have replied to your questions. I too have experienced the Butterflies and Birds flying around me in an unusual and noticable manner. The color of the bird was an extrememly brilliant blue and it was large. I have never seen such a bird as this, it was sitting on the fence outside our window,I could not help but notice it as I sat in m husbands chair. I knew this bird was a sign from my husband. The two pure white butterflies that were flying together on that same day as I was again sitting in my husbands chair later that day let me know again for certain that my husband was contacting me. We have not had butterflies in our back yard before.These things do not happen just by accident, they are messages for us. I have also had the lights flicker on and off at unusual times, my daughter hearing my husband's voice on a walk-talkie and dreams etc. There is no question, they contact us . Get another Doctor.

Something strange I had happen was the day my Grandfather died.

My boyfriend and I visited him around 2PM. We stayed for about 2 hours, and just talked to let him know we were there.

That night (Around 9PM, as I was leaving school) I had a really weird feeling that I needed to be with someone. I got in my car and started bawling my eyes out, and basically had a breakdown.

I got home that night, and couldn't fall asleep until about 12:20AM. Every little noise woke me up, and for some reason I felt like a kid afraid of the dark.
I finally fell asleep, and my Mom informed me that he passed at 1:03AM.

She told me that while I was at school, she heard the doorbell ring twice in a row, but no one was there. She said she felt it was my Grandpa coming in, so she arranged his chair, and put a blanket on the chair, telling him it was okay to go.

I thought this was crazy, because that would have been about the same time I was arriving home from school. I had not told my Mom anything about my emotional breakdown. It seems he was coming to say good-bye to us.

Since his passing, my Aunt said she woke up in the middle of the night and she said she heard my Grandpa telling her it was okay to go to bed, and that he will keep her warm.

Last night, I was on the phone with my friend, and I don't know if it was a glitch or what, but when she spoke, 2 of her words sounded distorted like a man's voice. It was freaky!