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Can tears dry up even if sad?

lifeissocruel
lifeissocruel
It's been 5 months since I lost my dad. My heart is still breaking, I look at his photo and long for his voice, a hug, to hold his hand - to care for him once more. It's like life has no purpose for me even though I still have to look after mom.

But I feel like an empty shell - and even while filled with sorrow, I can no longer cry. I have a lump in my throat and my chest is tight, but no tears can flow. Have I lost my love for my dad or is something wrong with me? I feel like a zombie ... so dead inside
gregsbaby
gregsbaby
There's nothing wrong with you and as someone told me, never feel bad for crying, it's okay! Yes there will be times when you feel you "can't" cry and that's okay too. Also there's nothing wrong with looking at pictures and doing as you're feeling. I do that with my DH too and I still "talk" to him. You're perfectly fine
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
We all look for the meaning of love. While it is true that missing the ones who have passed away is a sign of love, when that "missing them" fades it does not mean that we no longer love them.

Love is an ever changing thing.

I think that the love we have for our departed relatives ultimately becomes that warm feeling we have when we think of them. Rather than asking them for advice like we used to do, that question becomes "What would dad have done?"

It sounds like your love for your father is changing shape, and that is OK!

Gentle hugs
koolman
koolman
Sure, tears can dry up, if you're all cried out. Or maybe you've just cried so much, the tear ducts need replenishing. Drink a lot of water. Try to get plenty of sleep. There'll be plenty of time to cry tomorrow. Or maybe it's time to meet someone new, and learn to LAUGH again! It's OK!
hollowheart
hollowheart
Please don't question something like that. We have enough pressure on ourselves with guilt, grief, sadness, life changes. How much you cry or don't cry has nothing to do with how much you loved your dad. The thing is, you may burst into tears in a couple of months, and that is just how grief is.

I just had a bad crying spell last month, a couple of days of crying and it had been a while. Grief will come back and hit us hard and that's just how it goes. I definitely feel your pain, I feel the exact same way. I still feel like life has no purpose. I hate life and am still extremely angry that she is not here. I'm angry at the unfairness that as soon as I get a car she is not here to enjoy it and share it with me.

I am the same as you, a zombie, dead inside and just going through the motions of life. It's been about the same amount of time for me and my longing for my sister gets worse everyday. I can't believe I will never see her again for the rest of my life. I woke up this morning with that first thought on my mind. It's hard, and it has not even been a year yet for you.

Nothing is wrong. Your emotions are changing and that's OK.