I lost my mom 4 months ago, I miss her so much, it never has seemed real. i cannot work right now because i am so sick so much since mom died, found out i have lupus, been in hospital 2 times in 1 month, i am probably gonna lose my job, and i love being a nurse. but i keep getting sick. Ill be thinking of you all.

1st of all, i am so sorry for your loss!
My sister and i still dont want to accept the fact that our dad is gone, and it will be a year in January since he passed away. I never knew him so it still feels like he is still out there somewhere waiting to meet me, but i know he is gone...as for my sister, she doesn't feel ready to realise he is gone, but i think it is slowly getting to her as she is becoming more distant from me and is using a pic of her and him as a dp on a site...so hun, your not alone.

(((Donna))) my mom passed the weekend after Thanksgiving last year and I still can't grasp that she is gone. It's more like she is on vacation or something and will be back any day. So many days I want to pick up the phone and call her like I use to. There have also been some times here lately when I want to ask her about a health issue like menopause and how long it took her to get through it and how she felt - well.... I can't.

My 2 sisters and I are going Thursday to put Christmas flowers on hers and dads grave then go out to lunch. Dad passed in 1999 and every year we would do this but mom was with us.

Your not alone in your feelings, as you can see with all the replies you have gotten. Take this holiday season one day at a time, it's not easy. I am going to try my best when I start thinking about her to think about the good times and not the end.

i dont think a day goes by that i dont pick up the fone and then realize that i cant call mom...or randomly think "oh, mom will know that recipe, answer, etc"...then it hits me that shes not in her recliner anymore

yeah it sucks...i hope that someday the ropes around my heart will loosen

peace

yes my darling I have lost my friend and my aunt who was like a mum to me and it utter disbelief i know how you feel only time can help sweetheart love light and angel dust xxx

It's been over 6 months since my wife was killed. I still catch myself expecting her to come around the corner from our bedroom while I'm lying on the floor playing with our 19mo old. I had to remove the clothes hanger thingys from the back of the bedroom doors since every time I heard them open I thought it was her-just for a micro-second.
It appears we're 'normal' for the situation...unfortunately.
Shawn

I lost my son in July 2008 and I still haven't fully accepted that he is gone. I think I live in lala land most days and I am not sure if I will ever fully accept it. Its so hard to beleive that it is my reality and that I will never again see my baby boy in this life.

Hello DonnaB49,

I too lost my Mom 4yrs ago to cancer. I really don't think you will ever think she is really gone. So many things will remind you of her and you yourself are a big part of her in your actions and personna. Something you want to share with her will come up and you will want to tell her, ringing of the phone, someone might look like her at first glance. All these things and many more can happen. I think it is a part of the internal process we go through, To this day I still think tons of times daily about my Mom and I am sure you will too. Memories are the greatest you will see, they keep you sane down the road. If you ever need an ear I am a good listener.

I do!especially that we haven't really seen my brother's body!i would like to believe that he's just there somewhere and one day he'll just reappear!

my husband is gone for 23 months and I can say today he is but it feels like he is still coming home.

They are only gone from this world that we know. They are just on the otherside, I believe there is life after death, I believe my son lives on in another place, I feel him at times when I'm driving or alone. I talk to my son who I know he can here me. If I thought you die and that's it....well I don't believe it. Their body is gone but their spirit remain with us. Look for the signs they give you.

Shirley

Every single Day. I think of the last few month as a dream that I will wake up from and he will there to laugh at me to hold me.