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3 1/2 years of grieving

KellyLee105
KellyLee105
It's been 3 1/2 years since my son passed away... it was the worst pain ever, excruciating pain.. I thought I was going to die from a broken heart.. 3 1/2 years later I'am still here and alive..I have more better days, and less bad days now..Things seem to be getting easier.. I'am experience feelings of numbness, and blank minded..I'm wondering if this is part of the grieving process..Maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel..I would like to hear from others who have gone through these stages of grief...
Scott46
Scott46
Kelly I am so sorry about your son. Grieving can be a long road for some of us as you may have noticed from reading through the threads. When you say numb, do you mean actual numbness on mentally numb like you cant feel anything? It may not be a bad idea to check in with a grief counselor who can get an overall picture. Think of it this way. Your son loved you and would not want you to be in such pain. God bless. Scott
vader
vader
my name is vader.I am grieving also.On May,my boyfriend of 12 and half years killed himself and right now I am going thru torture.The loneliness that i feel is something that i dont want to wish on even my worst enemy.I have been numb and I am trying to live everyday at a time.Brad had a weird sense of humour...and now i wish that he was here so I can laugh again.I am going to go to a survivor of suicide soon and then this pain wont be as bad..but right now I am about ready to explode.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am at 3 years now after losing the love of my life. It never goes away, but you do learn to cope better. I certainly never thought I'd make it this far. Hang in there
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am over 2 years since I lost my Dad. We were very close and I was lucky to have him around for a long time, so that does not even come close to what you are going through. Time is always a healer, but some days you wonder. I feel better these days and what I try and do is not dwell on it so much. A relative told me a year ago that I seemed depressed. I actually never thought of that, but I think she was right. It's 'situation' depression. As time passes you will feel better but at the same time you don't ever want to forget, so there will be good days and bad days. I find keeping busy does make me feel better. Sorry for your loss! Dee
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
I lost my son 4 years ago last July 6th. The loss is never forgotten, the grief gets less as time passes but, it's always there with you. As the old saying goes, "you never get over it, you just get through it".

I terribly sorry about your loss. My son was 37 and his name was Michael.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Everything you are going thru is normal. Each person has to move at their own pace and in there own way down this long hard road. Twenty two years ago our 17 year old son was killed by a drunk driver. It was a living nightmare for a very long time and many times I thought I wouldn't make it(and many times didn't want to). With time the harsh raw pain lessened as new happy things came into my life(grandchildren) and gave me reasons to smile. In 2001 a drunk driver killed our thirty-one year old son and we began the journey again. This time knowing more and thinking that at least our two sons were together helped ease the pain a little. Today I still miss them both desperately and yes the tears do still fall at times as I think of all the wonderful times we have missed with them. This site and other support like this is wonderful. I wish I had known about this or that it had existed back with our first loss. One thing I read years ago has stuck in my mind and heart as being so so true. Grief shared is grief diminished and love shared is loved increased. Sharing these and our cherished remembrances of the love ones we have lost helps us and others. I wish you and everyone walking this journey peace and love. Nancy
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deleted_user
I am at two years,six months and 26 days in the loss of my wonderful Grandson. He was 20 when he was called home. The pain of his loss still takes my breath away when it hits me. And the missing him grows everyday. For me it seems that the buiser I can stay the better I make it thur the days. I am so very sorry for your loss. My daughter the mother of my grandson will neaver be the same. But I beleive that none of us will ever be the same the loss is just to big. Hang in there you have came to a wonderful place here at DS. Without the fine people here I am not sure that I could have came this far.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dear Kelly,

I am so very sorry about your son. I understand your heart and soul ache. My son died 5.12.08 at the age of 22.
I wish you peace. I wish all of us PEACE.... and it sure would feel nice to experience joy again, wouldn't it?
Hugs to you. God Bless you and your family. Holly
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