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amelah 06/23/2013

Mom passed on June 12th. Since then, my body has been in pain. My arms, my legs. My joints. Muscles. I feel tired all the time. I am not sleeping well. I wake in night sweats after 3 hours. I need to take stomach medication every night now. I am depressed and am all alone.

I have literature about how grief can be expressed -- but the list does not include body aches & pains. Has anyone had this experience? Or am I just going crazy?

Thanks. ((Hugs)) to you all who are grieving and suffering.

mtnlionbait 06/25/2013

Not going crazy.... grief, depression and stress all can cause the same symptoms. Next time you go in for a check up, talk to your doctor about them to rule out anything serious. Normal stages of grief do pass over time, with "episodes" becoming farther and farther apart. I noticed my grief seems to cycle around the full moon - possibly because that when my hormones cycle as well. Physically, I too struggle through the tired, not sleeping well, achy joints, but they're lessening the more I move forward. I'm so sorry for your loss. {{HUGS}}

rosykitten 06/26/2013

That is very recent. I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. You are not going crazy, your grief is completely normal. Please don't feel bad. You could see a doctor if you are not feeling well. Hang in there, hugs

amelah 07/01/2013

Thanks. I had seen my Dr a month or so prior to Mom's death, in which he ordered basic blood work. But I haven't gotten the labs done yet, with everything going on. Maybe I'll check with his office about other blood work before I get it done. I'm starting to sleep better. I think the night sweats are related to my cycle (and perimenopause). I am still very tired though & my body still aches. Thanks.

deleted_user 07/02/2013

Although we assume that this battle is mostly mental and emotional, I think we forget what an impact these emotions have on us physically. I too felt exhaustion and aches shortly after I lost my daddy. Good advice from "mtnlionbait"! Hang in there!

antaresmom 07/02/2013

My mom passed on June 17th 2013,I to am just going thru the motions,I have lost 12 pds in 2 weeks which i know isnt good,but nothing appeals to me food wise I eat once a day usually dinner,and i have been told thats part of the grieving as well,I have taken more advil in the past 2 weeks for head and body aches,I know its all part of grieving,the sleep i do get is maybe 4-5 hrs at best and not all at once,it happened so quickly within 6 days that both me and my stepfather just keep going over what happened,it was a heart attack,she had a weak heart to begin with from back in 92 with her massive heart attack,....we know its inevitable,we are all going to die,thats gods plan,and i agree with it,but that does not mean I like it tho....Its a process,1 day ,1 hour at a time is all we can do,take care of you,always here to listen...(((HUGS)))

koolman 07/11/2013

Yes, I've had this experience. Crying usually relieves it. Have you been attempting to suppress pent-up tears? If so, your body is rebelling, appropriately.

Exercise also relieves it for me, pushing against resistance, weight. It pushes the muscles back into their original positions. I think you're just extremely uptight, which is perfectly understandable, which is causing the muscles to constrict.

I've had some limited success with relaxing the muscles by taking Valerian Root tablets, a natural herb, available in the vitamin aisle of any drugstore.

Also, it may be fibromyalgia, which, yes, can be brought on by stress, like this grief. An orthobionomic massage therapist can do wonders for this.

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