Bridget with me i just had to put one foot in front of the other and i realized that i was not going to be the same person i once was and i started to accept that i was going to feel strange for a while and that i was going to allow my heart to lead the way instead of thinking my way out of it. everything we do comes from our heart let your heart lead the way there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

you may want to go to the doctors to give you anti depression pills
for me i choose not to I was determined to get through it without any intervention.


god bless you.........and keep you and comfort you..............

Bless your heart. I know the feeling -- all you want to do is stay in bed and sleep it away.

I felt exactly the same way when I lost my husband and my mother. The depression was overwhelming. I knew i couldn't deal with it, so I went to see my doctor. He put me on an antidepressant -- which helped IMMENSELY. You might need one only temporarily -- but it DOES help you get thru the pain. You're able to focus more, and able to keep busy to try and keep your mind off it. It also allows you to grieve properly.

I know most people don't want to resort to medications -- but the antidepressant saved me!! Plus you may want to talk to a grief counselor -- I contacted one thru Hospice. You can talk to their counselors even if you didn't use Hospice services previously. It's really very helpful talking to someone who knows what you're going thru.

God bless, and i wish you healing and much peace. Take care. Hugs, Lee

(((((( Bridget ))))) this is unfortunately part of the grieving process, too, just like grief bursts. There's a book I own that has helped me enormously although I haven't gotten through the entire thing yet because I'm not yet at the place in my own grief process that the book covers at the point I'm at in it. It was written by Therese A. Rando, Ph.D. "How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies". It will help you to understand all the feelings you have, lack of motivation, desire to crawl under the covers and stay there, etc. so you will have the comfort of knowing these are all normal and part of the grief process. Also a certified grief counselor, if it's a good match for you (person to person, you have to find one that's right for you) is an enormous help.

Thank you all for your wonderful words of support. This website has been so helpful to me even though it's only been about 4 days since joining this group.

Ellzeena: What a coincidence that you bring up the book. A few days ago my mother mailed a copy of it to me although I have not begun to read it yet. Thanks for your feeback about the book too.