Hi all,

There seems to be quite a movement here lately to "enjoy being a bedwetter" - that is, move beyond simple acceptance and actually embrace bedwetting as a positive feature of your life. I wanted to share a couple of thoughts on that, even though I realize what I have to say might not be popular or might rub some people the wrong way. But I feel like I have to speak on behalf of the many people here who do NOT enjoy their bedwetting, and do not see it as a realistic possibility.

Let me be clear first of all - If "Enjoying Being a Bedwetter" makes you happy or brings more peace to your life or helps you sleep better at night - more power to you! I don't mean to tell anyone that's wrong or to stop doing it, if that's what works for you and helps you to cope.
It's never been that way for me though. Acceptance, yes - I think some sort of acceptance is necessary because none of us knows the future (especially those of us who still have the problem as adults) and it may not be physically possible for some of us to overcome this problem. But that doesn't mean it's wrong if you, like me, still see it as a problem. I have worked very hard on accepting myself the way I am (because even now I recognize it's still very possible I will be at least an occasional bedwetter for the rest of my life) but affirming or embracing it as something to be happy or proud about - I couldn't do that. If I have the choice to be wet or dry, I am ALWAYS going to choose to be dry, and that's true enough that I'm willing to put in considerable work to achieve that goal, insofar as work might have the possibility to help me achieve it.

If I wet the bed for the rest of my life, or even if my condition gets worse and I go back to wetting every night - I'll accept it, but in the same way as I would accept cancer or diabetes or any other unwelcome medical condition. I would fight it to the best of my ability and do the best I can with the ability I have in the event that the results were limited, or fighting it became no longer possible. I would not dream of telling anyone to be "Happy to Have Cancer" and I, for one, feel the same way about being a bedwetter. Again, that's only my opinion - and you have to do what is going to bring the most comfort and peace to you regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Again, this is just my perspective from a lifetime of bedwetting experience, and I wanted to share it on behalf of anyone here who may be troubled or perplexed by all of the "happy to be a bedwetter" statements, and is looking for support to try to reduce or overcome bedwetting. I hope this us understood by everyone that no hard feelings are intended. Hoping you all are well. :)