Bedwetting Support Group

Bedwetting (or nocturnal enuresis or sleepwetting) is involuntary urination while asleep. It is the normal state of affairs in infancy, but can be a source of embarrassment when it persists into school age or the teen or adult years. Find others who are coping with a bedwetting problem and share your experiences and questions.

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Ritchie
Ritchie

How private are you about your bedwetting problems?


Me and my girlfriend are going to LA in spring and she said she’d like to visit and stay with a friend of hers for a couple of nights before we drive on, but when I said I’d feel a bit uncomfortable because of my bedwetting she said it’s okay, her friend knows I have to wear a diaper to bed and said it’s no problem and not to worry. I can’t believe she told her and I’m really feeling let down. I think it’s highly personal and she should not of said anything without asking me first. Am I wrong thinking that?


She promises me she’s told no one else and only told her friend in LA when we first started seeing each other 5 years ago, but I still feel she’s let me down. We’ve had a bit of a fight about it but am I being unreasonable?


How do you feel about others knowing you suffer from bedwetting and would you be upset if someone you trusted told someone? I’d really like to hear your thoughts to help sort mine out.

akingsmind
akingsmind
I can see how your upset I’m not sure how I would handle it. My wife has never told anyone other than the people that know of my issue or the need of a diaper. We have even stayed at friends homes before but I make sure that I have some bags to put them in the morning and throw that away. I can tell that most people forget I use them and never mention it anyways. The worst for me way me and a former coworker were traveling together for a class and they booked us in the same room (company policy). But we were friends so I basically just fessed up to him and he never mentioned it since. At that time I was using muscle relaxers for back spasms and being in class wasn’t good I told him sometimes when I take them I can have an accident so no to ruin the hotel bed I wear them when I take them. So I wouldn’t sweat it. Her friend will probably forget that your girlfriend said anything by the spring..
Ritchie
Ritchie
Thank you very much for taking the time to reply, I do appreciate it. I think I expected her to know it’s personal, and like your wife automatically know it’s not something I’d be happy her telling people about unless she asked me first. She’s apologized and said she only told her when it was early in our relationship and because she was a long distance friend thought it be safe and said she wouldn’t have dreamt of telling anyone else. It was her friend that re-raised the subject so I doubt she’ll forget for when we arrive but just have to accept she’ll be understanding and respect my privacy. I just have to get over it and trust my girlfriend, and I do trust her completely, which probably why this took me by surprise.
Thanks again for taking the time to reply.
Southern_Girl
Southern_Girl
Hi Ritchie, don’t let this get to you you guys are awesome together. Talk to her, I bet she didn’t mean anything by it, it was when you guys first met that’s long time ago now!
Think about your vacation it sounds very exciting. What route are you planning and seeing?
Ritchie
Ritchie
Hey South, thanks ever so much for commenting, how are you? We’re okay now, we had a chat and she explained and showed she didn’t mean anything by it and that it was when we first started seeing each other and she didn’t expect her friend to keep asking how I was everytime they emailed each other. She’s assured me her friend is discreet and I trust her.
We are excited about our trip, she’s planned the basic route which starts in LA. We then head north to San Francisco for a few nights, then on to Oregon and then Seattle. We eventually go to Canada and I can’t remember after that. I remember Yellowstone and I wanted to see General Custers last stand when she mentioned we were passing near it but not sure the order. She does all the driving which is just as well as I thought Seattle was near New York (sorry Seattle!).
Although for obvious reasons I’m dreading the long haul flight I am looking forward to the trip.
adfw61
adfw61
Ritchie - I can completely understand how you feel, though reading the posts everything now seems sorted. I have had to tell a few close friends and I know that my wife has also told a few too when we have been staying away. I always go prepared - diapers/nappies, absorbent bed pad and sometimes also a plastic sheet. I have to deal with this 24/7 so daytime changing can also be a bit embarrassing. Long car journeys, trains, planes/airport security can be a bit stressful but I just go with the flow....sometimes a little too literally!
Ritchie
Ritchie
Hey adfw61, thanks ever so much for reading and taking the time to reply to my post, and it’s nice to know you understand how I felt as you have similar issues to me. I am pleased to say it is sorted and we’ve moved on from it and just looking forward to going away now.
We fly fairly regular as my girlfriend goes away on business 2 or 3 times a year and I often go with her, we only need to pay for my flight, the hotels paid for and I keep myself occupied during the day until she gets back then we go out, but they’re mostly short flights and I can sometimes use lighter pads, as long haul I can’t do that. I tend to avoid the long haul trips with her because I know I need to wear a nappy both ways, and the flight and security I find too stressful. I’ll need to wear one for this flight so I would appreciate any advice you may have. My girlfriends very supportive but I know the nearer we get to the flight the more anxious I’ll get.
adfw61
adfw61
Never had a problem with security. Also keep a spare in hand baggage and buy a small pack of wipes etc when air-side. We travelled to the US for a three week family trip and I rang the airline and was allowed extra baggage allowance for 'medical items' - packs of TENA Slip Maxi. It's worth checking with your airline. Have a good trip.
nicolas2
nicolas2
A bedwetter since childhood, people have always known - so I have never had privacy on the issue! Always had to pack protective gear for sleepover and travel so no place to hide. In fact best that way, as folk on the whole are very understanding and caring; knowing full well we all have social/health challenges in life.
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