Hi MeGirl16, A good place to start your education about Autism is by going to the following website
http://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/autism-topic-overview
Read both pages. At the bottom of pg. 2 there are lots of links to more specific information about this disorder.
It sounds like your boyfriend has one of the more "milder" cases, so there's nothing to worry about. Its not going to get worse. And steps can be taken through behavioral training techniques to make his life better.

thank you, that sort of helped. i dont really understand all they talked about, but ill keep reading it over til i understand better. thank u FCSlll, its was very helpful. is there anything else?

Hi Megirl16,
In 2005, I suspected my baby had ASD, and when I studied about it, I thought,"Isn't everyone like THAT?" At the WalMart, nobody had eye contact. Babies develop language at different rates. etc.. I eventually came to conclude from my studies that we all have this trait or that, but the total number together makes the DX, and indeed we as humans have the ability to overcome or indeed we can become more confused and in some cases ASD can become disabling.
Oli was fortunate to have accepting, typical preschool friends, and he learned how to be "one of the gang" as his current 2nd grade teacher puts it. He is popular, and the other parents tell me the kids think he is really fun and a great friend.
Just be a great friend, and accept him as he is, and if he has something about him that is socially awkward, be a roll model, and nicely explain how an appropriate way to respond or act is better.

kk. and Kris has severe autism but his mom did abunch of stuff that makes it so he acys almost like everyone else. but he talks about the way he used to be and how its genetic so his kids could have it. and we talk about the future and i wonder what will happen with him. he acts like a loving bf and everything but ppl still make fun of him. he says he doesnt care but i care... i don't want ppl to be mean to him and im scared of what he will act like if he gets mad. i just dont know what to think. but i love him and will stick by him even if we break up some day. he will always be a part of my life no matter what

Its a hard-Love. asd is a complex human, love, patience and poiny out his virtues, enjoy intimacy, and Laugh.
Even children and faithful marriage, could be rewaring.

There is a bright side on that Spectrum.

thanks for all the help :) i really apressiate it. it means alot that you would help me like that. :)

I'm going to guess your bf has a form of milder Autism. Lots of "normal" people have traits of Autism, just not dx'd with it. I know there is a boy in my 11 yr olds class that is certainly on the spectrum but his mother sure isn't going to have him dx'd with that as she was so focused on how smart he is and he is. She was told he was ahead academically but so far behind socially that putting him ahead in school would harm him. Thank heavens this boy has a "normal" dad that pushed for that to happen!
Normal is a relative term, normal temps here in March are cold, but normal temps in other parts of the USA and down right hot. Both are "normal", just depends on where you are ;p

yeah. the thing is his autism isnt mild. its severe. he worked really hard to be where he is now. i love him so much and he is so perfect to me. but sometimes i feel like im agnoring his autism cuz i don't understand it. he tells me about it sometimes, but hes not very good at explaining. Kris is an awesome guy, but i don't understand this part of him. and he said it was genetic? and we are in the middle of a pregancy scare, so idk what to do.....im really confused.

Autism is genetically inheritable, so unfortunately, that means that their is a very real chance your child could be autistic if born. I say this not to cause alarm, but that so you can hopefully mentally prepare yourself for that potential.

Being a high functioning autistic-savant, I think I might be able to help you understand his autism better, but from my viewpoint, autism truly effects everyone differently.

If you are willing to share some things, like what he specifically says or does that confuses you, and give me information to work with, publicly or privately, I will do my best to help you try to understand it.

well....he gets mad and will stay mad. but he only acts mad for like two minites and then he seems fine. or he will talk about not feeling sorry when he hurts ppl? he talks about how the doctors told his mom to put him in a home and that there wasnt anything they could do for him. sometimes he will talk to me but not look at my face. and when we are doing stuff (kissing, stuff like that) he...growls?? im really confused. and he likes little kids. he gets along better with them (which i find really cute.) and stuff like that. and i was wondering, what could i expect from a child with autsim. what would the biggest challages be?

I couldn't possibly say what challenges you would face with an autistic child; I believe their are some parents of autistic children in this group, it's a good question for them to answer.

Autism is a very broad, umbrella term. It covers a lot of things, some of which may be relatively easy to deal with (as in my example; I am a high-functioning autist who can take care of himself, mostly), while others could require around the clock care and attention.

A lot of people with autism don't always respond well to touch; I can't really explain it myself. It's like, certain sensations almost give me a feeling of panic. Kissing, and such, could be causing him to growl because he's conflicted; he wants to do those things with you, but the sensation is also making him freak out.

Not feeling sorry for hurting people may be more a matter of morals than autism; does he feel like the people deserved it?

Not sure what could be causing the moodiness; it may or may not be related to autism. It mostly depends on his diagnosis.

Has he seen a psychologist of any sort for his problems, at any point in life? If he has an official diagnosis, I might be able to explain it better to you.

Although, mind you, I am not a professional. I post what I believe to be correct information, but their is a chance I am in error.

he thinks that some of them deserve it, but i mean more of he doesnt feel bad when ppl fall over and stuff. and he was dignosed very younge, and they confermed t awhile back. he is a very nice person. and he seems to work thro his problems well