I sympathise but it didnt solve your problem did it?

Of course not.

Geez, I hate it when I do that!! Just hang on for a bit longer. One thing that I've realized is that this type of thing is common with AS. I know that it doesn't make it any easier for you to go thru but try to focus on the fact that other's of us have been there too Reisen. And we want you to be here tomorrow.

funny how we never seem to grow out of meltdowns. Its just as we grow older, others see it less and less. I still meltdown, just in private. still hurts, though

Lorezepam, vallium, xanax, cannibis. Not sayin', just sayin'.

Agree and medications will help alot - when I have a job and have medical insurance

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I have to remember I found a great way for meltdown anger. Should use it more often. When I felt like REALLY THROWING SOMETHING ... I would walk up to it in full anger, stare at it in rage and then ..... TAP!!! it with my finger and turn away, laughing.

I have not done this kind of thing in a long time. I do feel like something inside me is going to rip out of me and kill something, but usually I never actually externalise it. Just clean something when you feel like this. I can get a whole house cleaned when I am mad at people. I did used to scream at people too. I still get pissed at people on the phone or worse a machine on the phone I hate those so much I sometimes feel like putting a fist through the phone or something.

I don't know what it all means
I know we have a creator
He made you from the dust
And never made a being greater

I used to have fits, but learned through cognitive therapy, and other therapies and with meds to controll it. It ain't easy , but is doable. But if you do have a fit sometimes, let it go, don't beat yourself up and try not to feel guilty, for u are human and human's make mistakes.

My six year old son is suddenly(last two weeks) having meltdowns on a daily basis.usually he breaks his toys, puts holes in the walls with hockey stick BUT now it has escalated to him hitting me, kicking me, shoving me and trying to throw any object he sees at me. He scared his sister and me today when he grabbed a knife. He is only six but he is big and strong and I have bruises all down my legs. he scares me.
I have tried being SO calm and in the past 5 months he has really improved as I gave him more of my attention and I stopped getting angry at him. However, I cannot deal with this violence because I ran into my room and locked the door(my time out) and he tried to break the door down;ended up breaking the garbage can he used to hit the door with. If I get the least bit angry or frustrated and ask WHY are you so angry he just freaks out even more. I learned tonight in doing some research that MY anger would only add fuel to his fire. I also read that he cannot identify what or why he is so angry;just lumps all the bad feelings together. He actually said he didnt nailed down...safety proof the house. It is also a arented house so I am a nervous wreck about the damage. Tonight I dropped him off to have a ski lesson with his big brother(big brothers and sisters org) and I was terrified when the BB was a couple minutes late. I thought if he doesn"t show up My son will hit me all the way home. I am starting to feel differently about him and I don"t want my daughter and her friends to stop coming over because he scares them. How is he feeling about himself when this happens..he says he hates me..he asks if I hate him all the time..I called the womens shelter where we stayed last summer to get counselling for him(me too) but really...what would help. It is just him and me living together;he says he doesn"t want to see his Dad and the one weekend he did spend with him...well this is the result. Ever since that visit, the meltdowns started again and have escalated. What would calm him down once he starts raging and attacking me? I have MS and Fibromyalgia and I am a small framed woman. I don"t have energy at the best of times and this is just killing me...emotionally. It rips my heart out to see him so upset, lonely . He says he is different than other kids. He also said "Life is so boring..it is all boring. There is NOTHING in this world for me." What does he mean.

Kittyjoy, that sounds just horrible. I'm sorry that you're going thru all this. If you read thru the postings here you'll see that it isn't uncommon for ppl w/AS to behave poorly when going thru these meltdowns that we have. Worse than poorly in your case. I don't know how to express this point enough... AS may be the reason for poor social behavior, but it can NEVER be used as a (good) excuse for it. So don't feel trapped in that. That is to say, we can generally speaking, learn to behave appropriately. Unfortunately that requires the parent to work harder and take more extreme measures in teaching these life-lessons to their AS children. There's an old saying that kinda' applies here. "When it's hardest to pray, Pray your hardest." And so when it's hardest for you to hang in there, hold on tighter.
It's double tough on single parents and I really feel for ya'. But honestly, you just can't rely on his dad. And still, you need help. The counselling sounds like a good start. Professional advice seems like a good idea. Just be certain to tell them everything you're dealing with. Especially about your fears about your personal safety. That should clue the therapist in to really focus on that behavior. Don't just go in there and say "he has AS and won't listen to me." Print off this posting and give it to the therapist. Tell the ppl at the Women's Shelter that you are dealing w/physical abuse, even if it's embarrassing to you. Medications can often help deminish the episodic(?) behavior, at least to the point where you'll be able to reason with him and correct him with more traditional disciplines. Regardless, being so afraid of "his raging & attacking" is not acceptable in anyone's home. Draw your line in the sand there. God forbid that he would need to go into an institution for a short while, but if that's what it takes for you to feel safe, then do it. But there are plenty of options available before that happens. When dealing w/children, my fall-back motto has always been that's it's not so much the idea to raise the perfect kid as it is to raise them to be a good adult. So when you feel your heart rending, try to remember the bigger picture. That you want him to be able to function better in his adult life than he currently is as a child. I know that it still hurts to see him go thru all the turmoil that he's obviously dealing with and my words are just words, but this is one of those areas, in my opinion, when tough-love is the rule, not the exception. GL

Oh god, I used to have screaming fits as a child every time my classmates bullied me, which was a lot. And because I screamed, they teased me more. They had some sick obsession with my screams. This lasted through high school. Trashed a classroom several times. The fits haven't happened since I graduated though.

... and I always seemed to break those things that were most special to me, and things that I created myself, irreplaceable things.

Yes..he grabs artwork or anything from school I have hanging on the wall or fridge and he rips it to shreds..he breaks his own toys most often. He gets a hockey stick and smashes hot wheel cars for half hour..I started telling him there were certain things he could smash so he wouldn"t destroy things he would miss later..I want to get a punching bag for him.do you think that would work