Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.
...and maybe you could call this my big coming out moment because I've never ever wanted to talk about it previously.
I've had Aspies most of my life. Was diagnosed before I understood what was happening. I've been told I was around the age of three when the diagnosis came. Around that time was also diagnosed with cerebal palsy, but that's another story.
My child doctor once called me a miracle child for the way I've tried to fight through this, but I don't buy it. Meaningful friendships -- especially on a face-to-face basis -- have never come to be, first because I was too shy, and later because I have felt just plain suspicious of people generally, which was amplified by a smoke bombing I had to endure in high school (I don't think I have to explain how the marathon bombings in Boston amplified those feelings...)
It's hard for me to really explain what Aspies has done to me because for the most part up to now it was a taboo topic with me, as in bring it up at your own risk. Obviously since I'm typing this I've decided that this has to change now.
I guess the best starting point I can come up with is that I feel really awkward at best around people, have basically been a loner, and am very afraid that I will be one for the rest of my life.
That's all I really have to say for now. Anybody who does read this can feel free to grill me if they wish.
I've had Aspies most of my life. Was diagnosed before I understood what was happening. I've been told I was around the age of three when the diagnosis came. Around that time was also diagnosed with cerebal palsy, but that's another story.
My child doctor once called me a miracle child for the way I've tried to fight through this, but I don't buy it. Meaningful friendships -- especially on a face-to-face basis -- have never come to be, first because I was too shy, and later because I have felt just plain suspicious of people generally, which was amplified by a smoke bombing I had to endure in high school (I don't think I have to explain how the marathon bombings in Boston amplified those feelings...)
It's hard for me to really explain what Aspies has done to me because for the most part up to now it was a taboo topic with me, as in bring it up at your own risk. Obviously since I'm typing this I've decided that this has to change now.
I guess the best starting point I can come up with is that I feel really awkward at best around people, have basically been a loner, and am very afraid that I will be one for the rest of my life.
That's all I really have to say for now. Anybody who does read this can feel free to grill me if they wish.
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I find myself going places in the car and not wanting to get out of the car. I come back home and I don't want to get out of the car. I think it's the only time I spend reflecting. Chronic tiredness from Long Covid plus the immunosupressing meds for my Crohn's is slowing me down but everything just seems a massive effort. I am dealing with the paperwork following my father's death but it's not...
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Wow, it's the middle of the week already!Today is our 11 year anniversary, so we're going out to a nice dinner. I'm losing a lot of sleep these days, hence a wonky schedule and uncomfortable feelings. But I know it will pass, eventually.I hope all of you have a peaceful day, and may good things come your way!
I get being suspicious of others - when you don't understand how others work and are not understood ourselves I think it's a fairly natural outcome.
School is often hard for alot of us, given the pack mentality of children, ie find someone who is identifiably diferent and move up the pecking order by pushing the different down. Some "normal" children never progress to a more mature understanding of diversity.
I don't have any friends really either - although I am married and I do talk to people on DS sometimes. I have lots of acquantances that I discuss my interests with - no doubt quite a few are asperger's too but we don't talk about that.
This is a mixed board, people with asperger's, parents of aspie children and spouses/ partners. I set up a group for people who are auties/ aspies, you are welcome to have a look and if you like join.
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/aspie-autie-haven2
I have never been officially diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. I just read an article about autism when I was 12 and identified with it. It was an article featured in a magazine our family had a subscription to, and I wish now I had talked to my mother about it, but I didn't think of it then, and she died just before I turned 16. I am now 64.
I am glad you decided to open up about it. I think it just gets better. :)