Arthritis Support Group
Rheumatoid arthritis is a chronic, inflammatory, multisystem, autoimmune disorder. It is a disabling and painful condition which can lead to substantial loss of mobility due to pain and joint destruction.
i have oesto arthritis in my knee. i had a injection a few weeks ago in it to help.my doctor told me to rest it for a couple of days to give the injection time to work. but my partner refused to help me at all.it was 3 days before we was due to go on holiday and as you can guess alot to do. my knee has got worse. my elder brother wanted a wardrobe and bed from my lates aunts house i kept telling him i couldnt help get them down the steep stairs but he just ignored me saying i would be alright. which i wasnt and it just added to the pain i was already in. we have a large garden cant afford a gardener yet again my partner refuses to help sits on her backside all the time or going to bed in the daytime. i have repeatedly asked for her to help me around the house and garden but she refuses. she is getting paid by the goverment to be my carer. i feel like ringing them up and say shes cl;aiming money under false pretenses,but she says its only my mental health shes a carer for but she doesnt even do that. anyway back to the subject i'm really struggling to walk now i'm getting cramp in both legs i think its to do with the way i limp. i have no idea how to get the help i desperately need. i'm live in the uk. i went into town the other day i fely physically ill because of the pain of walking. my consultant says i'm too young at 55 for a knee op.i cant take anti inflammatory meds because of my ibs . i'm at my wits end.
Having a partner who is also your care giver is a big job. And separating the 2 can be very hard. Needing to depend on someone is also hard on us.
Your partner isn't the best person for the care giver job, and you need to get someone else who can assist you.
As for a partner, you can deal with that after you have found someone who can help you out a bit, and after you get your knee under control.
You say you can't take anti inflammatory meds, what about Tylenol? Have you tried a heating pad? Or even a arthritis cream?
How many injections have you had in the knee? Sometimes it can take more than 1 to do the trick. Sounds like you have a lot going on, and trying to deal with so many things at 1 time can really delay any improvement.
I wish you lots of luck, and remember, one thing at a time.
You need to say no when you don't want to do something,, especially if it is going to hurt you.
some place to call to get help.