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why won't it stop

FeelingLikeShit
FeelingLikeShit

ive had three anxiety attacks today and im really freaking out and i dont know why but its really scaring me and im sick of people leaving me ive just stopped trying to make friends bc they will eventually leave me and i just want this pattern to stop and ive been trying ive changed how i act and how i look and nobody wants to be friends with me whats wrong with me???? i really miss my dad even tho he died almost two years ago and everyone is telling me to be over it and i dont know when i will be but im worried that is why i cant make friends because nobody wants to be friends with the "girl whos dad died" this sucks i hate life

MusicandCoffee22590
MusicandCoffee22590
I would say to have distractions and do fun things with other people and maybe they would not think of you with a label. Try not to feel anxious because that is something that, as humans, we should not give into, and to have fun instead, and if you are having trouble figuring things out, ask the people you can get the most feedback from.
bridgie101
bridgie101
:People will want to be friends with you if you are relaxed, funny, cheerful, friendly. It has nothing to do with your dad, nobody says 'i won't be friends with people whose parents are deceased.' but they will avoid you if you bring them down, exhaust them, wear them out.

So being alone during grieving is a good idea.

You'll have heaps of years for friends going forward. They come and go. They're not your top priority. Your life and your future is your top priority.
Diane22
Diane22
Losing a parent is a very traumatic experience and you shouldnt "get over it". you should see a therapist regarding your anxiety and grief over your dad. It could help you feel better. Anyone who doesnt want to talk to you because a parent died is a bad person. Leave those people in the dust. Good luck
InWonder
InWonder
There's no rule book or unspoken standard for how long it takes to grieve a loved one. The process for mourning is different in every person. I would also suggest seeking a counselor or therapist, so you can discuss the pain you're feeling. Healthy outlets are important and crucial for healing. As for people not wanting to stay in your life....there are many that don't know how to be a stable support for someone who is grieving--it can be uncomfortable. Nothing about this is a reflection on you, it's their own inability to meet you where you need. However, I would caution you to not conform to others just to win them over. We should always have people around us that want to be there for genuine reasons...not by obligation or under some illusion that you're someone else. Keep searching and keep being yourself. The right friends will come into your life and you'll know it when it happens. I'm sorry you're hurting--praying for deep healing. You're always welcome to express you're thoughts here.