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Trichster724
Trichster724

I love when my good friends get along with my work friends. I like that I can hang out with everyone and have a good time but last night one of my best friends from high school went out with my best friend from work and didn't invite me and I felt so left out. They went to our local hangout spot where my work friends go out all the time so it could have just been a coincidence but I didn't get an invite and it made me really upset as I was at home doing absolutely nothing :(


I know they can hang out with whoever they want but it makes me feel like shit since neither of them answered my texts yesterday and I just feel so ignored and i feel like they don't want to be around me anymore. 

Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988
Ugh, I'm sorry that they did that to you. This has happened to me in the past where I have introduced people and then they started hanging out without me. It makes you feel truly unwanted. What I did was confront them and tell them that they hurt my feelings. It's true, people can hang out with whoever they want, but they still shouldn't ignore you. Maybe they knew it would hurt your feelings so they decided it would be better to avoid you. (Definitely not the right thing to do). I hope it all works out. ::hugs::
Trichster724
Trichster724
thank you. I talked to both of them separately and apparently one saw the other one at the bar on snapchat and just decided to join her. my other friend thought I was asleep so he didn't invite me.
lucillegem
lucillegem
aww sry this happened to you, try not to take it so personally, its hard not to but, humans are imperfect, I forget things. Not sure if that helps, but its nice you atleast went to the bar :) hugs
monnieloves
monnieloves
Hello. A similar situation happened to me years ago. My best friend introduced me to another close friend of hers. We had so much in common until we went out without my best friend. She felt like you, left out. It wasn't our intention to secretly leave her out. It wasn't preplanned just a spur of the moment hang out. The fact that you blended your work friends along with your personal friends says a lot about you. I wouldn't worry about it.
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All too often, we end up overthinking and putting our thoughts into a spinning wheel. That's the best way I can describe what happens when two people we introduce go out without us. You took the high road and asked what how it happened. The best way forward is to know that sometimes you'll be left aside because of other people being considerate (thought you were asleep). It's hard to step off the spinning wheel, however, when we find our balance, it works. Best wishes!
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