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Tough Days as a Care Giver

stlake
stlake

I'm a care giver for my wife who has cancer. She is gettting treatment, but we hear mixed signals about the prognosis. Our doctors don't seem to care even though we're at a national cancer ceter. In the mean time, I keep seeing her side effects from the drugs get worse. I feel so bad for her and want to cry all the time. I'm constantly sick to my stomach and it is hard to function. I'm seeing and doc and taking meds for my depression and anxiety.

lucillegem
lucillegem
warm hugs. If it helps at all to say this but you are not alone in this fight.
Rruussnn
Rruussnn
I can only imagine the troubles you and your wife are going through right now. I read your post and want to send positive thoughts you way, as that is all I can offer. Seems like your wife is getting plenty or too much of standard medicine treatment by robotic doctors. I suspect they don't listen to your worries or complaints about her care?
prettybig
prettybig
I am so sorry
I hope things work out well for you both
Thinking of you and your family
I understand it's a very emotionally draining time
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Rouik
Rouik
My grandmother fought cancer on and off for about 8 years and I often wondered how my grandfather did it, It takes a special kind of strength to be there for a very sick spouse and I am amazed how strong people like you really are. Try and keep your head up, find some good people around you to help support you and her both. You are doing an amazing thing and I will be praying for your strength during this time as well as your wife to get better. Best of luck.
Tired
Tired
Maybe a support group for families going through cancer. The hospital might have one. Do little things that make your wife feel a bit better. Put on her favorite music, buy flowers she likes so she can look at them. Get carnations if she can't take the smell of flowers. What ever would make her feel better.
stlake
stlake
Thanks everyone for your support and suggestions. They really make a difference.
AndrewK
AndrewK
my wife's mom went through that about 5 years ago and passed away. It was hard on her and her step-dad who took care of her and was there for her through it all. All I can say is hang in there. If your wife passes away, she does. Sorry if it sounds rough, but it's a possibility, right? If she makes it through it, then hopefully she'll be good for a long long time. I don't know what else to say, but hope you find the strength you need to make it through each day.
Rruussnn
Rruussnn
This is an article I just came across that sort of relates to your wife's situation, maybe. https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/03/01/well/live/informed-patient-dont-bet-on-it.html
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