Mark Anthony would say to be or not to be that is not the question.

The longer you hold onto it the more power you give the person your mad at. Why give power to someone like that.

Better concentrate on things that are positive to do with your time.

Like think of pink elephants

Believe it or not Marty the pink elephant thing is really working for me! I have pretty much let go of my anger, but still have days it chaps my hide!

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I can relate to your feelings of hurt. I'm very sensitive and tend to take things personally which is hard sometimes to let go of the hurt.
Also I find that some family members especially take advantage of my good nature and overstep the mark on occassions.
I know it's better to forgive but hard sometimes. It depends on the behaviour of the other person....is it acceptable or not.
If we carry on as if nothing had happened, isn't that encouraging the person to re-offend?

Living and holding on to that Anger ( as i well know) just makes you more anxious because of all the Negative feelings you have stored for a person or persons for that matter,to forgive is a great thing it releases all that Negative thought and feelings deep in side one,but you dont have to forget, I forgive and forgave alot in my time and as of yesturday i have, i board member litlerly purposly trash'd my posting i put up here and Off the subject wrote a whole different tune about what my post was ment to be.. but? i forgave /him/her and moved on , no sense of making a mole hill into Mountain it just cause's more grief ect:

forgiveness for the offender lets him/her off your 'hook' but not off God's 'hook'. Let Him take care of this person.

forgiving him/her sets YOU free. when we don't forgive, we put ourselves into a prison.

forgiveness is not a feeling. it is a decision. and more often than not, it is a decision that may need to be made on a daily basis. the emotions will come along in time.

If someone has been friends for me for years and years and pretty much f**ks me over I will hold a grudge for the rest of my entire life.
But if a friend hurts my feelings and can explain why they did then I can pretty much forgive them right away.
I tend to usally beat myself up about friends hurting me, like I have done something wrong for them to act that way.
I tend to beat myself up for alot of things lol
So yea I can forgive if its small, but big things I don' forgive easy.

hhmmm if someone hurts me and they are not a best friend, I would not bother about it I would not waste my energy on someone who dont mean that much. If it was a friend and they hurt me... unless they had a FANTASTIC reason for doing it, they would NEVER EVER do it again, and because they have hurt me I would not want to know them as they are not the person i thought. There is only one person that I would forgive and that is my daughter.

Forgiveness is a two part scenario to me. It's of course about forgiving the person for what they did in the sense you won't dwell on it anymore, but I also think it's letting yourself off the hook as well.

Giving yourself the right to dismiss the person from your life and move on without their being some type of emotional string holding you to them.

One of my pet peeves are people who say sorry and then repeatedly do the same things over and over. don't apologize if you don't plan to fix it, is my belief. And the more you apologize and continue the behavior, the less your apologies really mean.

It's a hard road, but I agree with everyone that says it is ultimately about helping you, not about them. And knowing that people get there just deserve in the end, it helps a bunch : )

What really helped me was when someone said that you don't have to forgive the act, just release it and let it go.

Definitely forgive. If you are having a hard time, pray about it and maybe ask God to help you forgive this person. He does wonders! The longer you hold on to unforgiveness, the harder it is to forgive.