Hey Kriz....my OCD has been absolutely horrendous the past two days because I have been so stressed out and from lack of sleep. So I am in the same boat with ya!

But good for you for not letting yourself get carried away with it. You actually came on here and spoke positively and made a plan for yourself to help yourself through it. I am very proud of you!

And get those freeloaders out of your house! They have been there forever. You have done right by them for a long time now.....let it be somebody else's turn!

I agree with Lilygirl. Have you set some limits for them? It is your house not theirs. You'll have to update me on the living condition again. It has been awhile.

I hope you are feeling better!

Well I am not panicky today. but depression is really setting in. I am responciable for everything in our lives, money, kids, house med.And if any thing goes wrong I am the one that has to take care of it. I am tired all the time. I have no free time and I freak out when things are too quiet and going smooth. If something good happens to me I feel as though I don't deserve it.
My house guests were only suppose to be here for a visit for a few nights but my aunt got drunk and ended up getting her daughter who she was staying with kicked out of her place. Then she left them here after I got mad at her for drinking in my home she went to a shelter so I now have her daughter who is 19 and has high risk pregnancy, her daughters boyfriend, and her youngest son who my cousin has custody over he is 14 months old. They are sleeping in my livingroom and are not having any luck finding jobs. Which would be hard to find since he never gets up before noon. It added on to my stress.
So now I need an extra 400.00 this month to cover everything. I am on disability for my mental problems and hubby is on for his med. problems and I receive welfare to the kids. I pay my own bills and we only receive 1300.00 a month and that really barely covers our bills and basics. But with added people we need more.
So yeah lots of panic attacks nightly really cause I am so worried all the time. I have no time for anything the only reason I am online right now is cause they are waiting for me to get done cooking. Then I will have dishes to do and nightly cleaning. I take care of now 8 people. I think I need a break down just to get some rest. I am kinda praying for it now.

Kriz - what are you getting out of this situation? It is your choice that they are living there and you have not put out any expectations or limits on them and their sleeping, eating habits, etc. Who says you really have to do everything? By doing cooking for them, how are you helping them? By letting them live in your living room and sleep all day, what do you expect them to learn or gain? You are not responsible for them despite you feeling like you are. The shelter their mom is in can work for them as well. They need some counseling and work. They can both work even if it is babysitting in a church nursery. Your house - your rules. You determine the outcome. Lay it out in front of them like you did for us! Tell them alternatives, expectations. They should be cooking cleaning and helping bring in some income to pay for their own food at the very least.

kacc you are right, I should just go and let them know. My mom has said the same thing to me. She thinks I should call my landlady have her remove them from my house. I feel so bad for them but you are right about me feeling as though I should be taking care of them. They are not my kids or my problem. I am gonna talk it over with my hubby. I think a two week time limit should be put on them. They have been buying some food for their kid but mostly junk. So I fed them along with my family. I make a lot cause I have three teens.
I just have a hard time with this kind of thing.

It's ok to set limits with the house guests. It's your house and you pay the bills and can't afford extra right now. Just tell them you will give it such and such a date and they need to find another place to stay. They will continue to stay as long as they want because they don't pay rent and can. They have no reason to leave until you set the boundaries and don't feel guilty. Best to you!

And just start watching tv when you want. It's your home and they can't sleep at all hours in the living room.