I hope these help sweety. Thinking of you always...

1. A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.

2. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.

3. Instead of giving myself reasons why I can't, I give myself reasons why I can.

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Affirmations are good. Here is one to start you off.

I am safe and totally protected by the Universe from all energy that is not for my highest good.
I will draw to myself today the powerful, loving and protecting energies of the Universe.

1 - Control, do not worry about what you do not have control over.
Accept that some things are out of your control.
2 - Happy The power of positive thinking, really works.
3 - Exercise Taking a short brisk walk is relaxing & energizing
4 - Expression Get the things that bother you off your chest, talk to
someone.
5 - Relaxation Learn to relax, yoga meditation or a hot bath
6 - Un natural Get back to nature,we are all stressed living in this
crazy world. Hiking, biking, working in garden.
7 - People Don't sit home get out with people, have someone you
call when you need to talk.
I was given this stress management and it really works.
Hugs!!!

There are some really good tips here. I would also suggest CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) work which teaches you new frameworks for your life. We all know that each person views life differently - it's all perspective.

EFT can also be an extremely effective tool. It looks a little odd, but it's been proven to have remarkable results. You can find videos all over You Tube for it. It's called Emotional Freedom Technique.

I am still working on this but you're right - it's our own thoughts that kill us - not the reality of what's going on in our worlds. We tell ourselves all sorts of stories that stress us out and make us crazy. Then we wind up with high blood pressure, heart disease, etc.

All that being said, part of the problem is being so hard on ourselves about getting stressed out. When I get stressed, I try to laugh about it or talk it out with a friend or soak in the tub.

Hope you find good answers that work for you.

I have the same issues.
I called 211 crisis help line today and i was really helped me!!!

First reconize what triggers your mood swings

2. Remember your coping skills what gets you out of your funk

3. Who can you turn to... social network

4. Getting help

5. Keeping safe

This is mine...
1. Reconize the signs what are the triggers
Feeling overwhelmed
Feeling worthless
Feeling like im a burden
Feeling like i lost my purpose losing my daughter
Feeling hopeless like i cabt go on feeling this way.
My husband being sick and feeling like i cant help him because i cant help myself
Abusive friend
Relationship with father not feeling as close to him or his lack of compassion.
Feeling if i went through these thoughts it would release the pain
I become selfish and think if i do it the pain will go away.

2. Coping skills
Gardening helps cope keeping them alive and healthy

3. Social setting ( who can you turn to)
I have my husband and brother will pull things out of me that i dont realize are bothering
I have friends i play games with and socialize

4. Getting help
211
Online support groups 7 cups
Daily strength
To talk it out with someone

5. Keeping safe
Keep sharp objects away out of site.

I hope that helps because when im anxious it goes to depression then it goes to self harm thoughts for me.

My anxiety disable me for a long time where i wasnt even myself. I had such bad panic attacks i couldnt function, couldnt work, became anti social and agoraphobic

Start thinking positive, it will give you hope for changing your situation.
Make positive minded people around you,they will help you to find your way.
Try CBT, it helped many.
Make yourself busy in doing things like hobbies, write something positive.

I equate positive attitude with positive ACTION. You have to DO things, exercise, work on solving whatever the problem is, that bring about some measure of positive effect, however small and seemingly insignificant, every day. Even if the action doesn't bring an immediate desired return, it's an investment in good karma, building up value in yourself as perceived by yourself, and throwing a sort of wish-list out into the universe.

1. Meditation works best for me.
2. Play some good music that you like to sing along to when you start your day, it usually lifts up my mood.
3. Take a bath (and listen to the music!)
4. Look at what you are worrying about, make sure it's not something out of your control!