I felt like this about mine at first but it has gotten better. She has given me some rationalizations that have really helped me along the way. Most of the time I do wind up doing all the talking but she does interject if necessary.

After a few sessions if it doesn't "fit" it's ok to change to someone else.

^ I agree, you can always change if you feel it doesnt fit, hopefully itll work out for you, sending you good vibes (hugs)

My experience is that they expect to listen, and try not to talk too much. I had a counsellor who would converse back, tell me his stuff - and then apologise for talking because it was supposed to be all about me.

You speaking and having your words come out of your body and into the air is part of healing. Knowing someone hears you is part of healing. And having those words ring in your ears and realising they are very true, or not so true - that's part of healing too. Sometimes we have to express ourselves to move on.

My dad was a shrink and he said there were 2 schools of thought. Counsellors who give advice, and counsellors who don't. Dad was of the don't give advice brigade. I actually think that's stronger, because you will come to your own understandings and discoveries. You will own your choices better. Own your feelings, own your discoveries. With input from others comes loss of autonomy. And sometimes losing your autonomy is what got you into that mess to start with.

But I did like my counsellor who woudl launch into stories about his son, or his daughter, and make me feel human and valuable and not like a bacterium in a petrie dish.